Traditionally Systemic Family Constellation training has taken place in a face-to-face experiential way. The Covid 19 situation has challenged my belief that this is the only way it can take place. Since realising the limitations of that belief and the possibilities technology offers, I am now in a position to offer Systemic Family Constellations online. This is a composite training online consisting of 11 sessions consisting of recorded webinars, notes, exercises and tasks to complete and 5 day component online experiential. You will also receive the course book Rapid Core Healing.
Systemic Family Constellations is a powerful psychospiritual, experiential, psychodynamic, brief and solution-focused approach to working with generational issues. Those that we carry from our ancestral lines. I have come to refer to this link with our ancestors as our generational mind.
The generational mind is connected to what we hold with parents, grandparents, our tribe and beyond. It holds information that is genetic, social, emotional, beliefs, family patterns and love, but it also holds burdens, disturbed emotions, patterns and generational trauma. Systemic issues require a systemic approach and so our normal clinical psychotherapeutic or counselling approaches are not appropriate for the resolution of generational patterns or issues. Understanding or awareness is frequently not enough to create a deep resolution.
I have found that unique and specific approaches are required for the personal unconscious and the systemic (generational) mind.
The more problematic personal unconscious materials develop and are often repressed through the biography of a person’s life. These are the experiences that arise from the ups and downs of everyday-life. We are fine with the good stuff such as triumphs but disappointments, shocks, traumas etc are more problematic. These may be worked with through traditional counselling, psychotherapy modalities and in particular with Emotional Mind Integration, a modality that I have developed that is a perfect complement to the constellation approach, for a complete approach to mind, heart, soul and the greater ancestral soul in the twenty-first century. See https://emotionalmindintegration.com
Systemic issues involve deep, generational, ancestral loyalties, entanglements and emotional attachments bound by both deeply unconscious and frequently, conscious love. What has been found through the constellation process is that it’s not OK to simply symbolically cut bonds to family members who have abused or hurt us, as this has a detrimental effect over time. Not only to the person involved, but to the system and for their children as well, as we are all energetically connected.
The constellation process is powerful at resolving deep emotional, psychological, relational and systemic trauma related issues, but is also deep personal development as well. It’s hard to be at peace in a deeper way, if we cut off our roots; our entry into life. Perhaps this is linked to our primitive roots where the role of ancestors is still held in a reverant and sacred place by many traditional peoples and cultures today.
In a constellation process there are techniques to assist the client and their system in finding justice and a better place while maintaining or restoring a healthier connection to the family and system. The Constellation process is embedded in a deep and wholistic philosophy that speaks to the soul in a profound way. The process is fast, experiential and solution-focused for foundational and profound change.
A Constellations taps into our original blueprint. If these foundational bonds are poorly formed, meaning we don’t have good healthy connections with our parents, it has an impact on our wellbeing, (John Bowlby’s attachment theory), this may result in a poor sense of worthiness or disconnection. Many may fight back and become rebellious or alternatively become defeated and close their hearts, to prevent further hurt or disappointments. While this may enable survival, it results in being unable to give or receive of love. This affects who they attracted into their lives and also how they parent their own children. This shows one way of how family patterns form and maintained. Entangled parents imprinted by their own parents passing it unconsciously to their children, showing how patterns may persist through generations. Dysfunction inadvertently passed down the generations, until it can be changed.
Bert Hellinger the founder of Family Constellations developed a totally ‘out of the box’ way of working. Like Milton Erickson he had the belief that, ‘it’s never too late to have a happy childhood’. In going back to those original blueprints of hurts, anger or the need to ‘shut down,’ the constellation process assists the client in finding a better story of themselves and a more loving place in the family system. A new connection is formed, a new blueprint and a new perspective of themselves in their family, and hence the world.
When I started Systemic Constellations, it was viewed by many as a bit ‘woo woo’. Since then neuroscience has discovered that there is a place in the brain in the Limbic system and the amygdala where new memories are formed from old in appropriate circumstances, enabling new neural pathways to form. My clients often experience this as a fuzzy feeling in their mind after a constellation, as their brain settles into a new state. Further, the rise of epigenetic research and its findings has confirmed how trauma transcends generations and switches DNA on and off. This means that any process that can assist in releasing generational stresses or trauma or unresolved emotions can be of service to individuals with systemic issues and hence the family system.
In constellation training I teach 3 private session formats as well as how to run group processes. For existing practitioners this is a valuable addition to your professional development in assisting you in providing quality service to your clients. Or you may come in as a new practitioner. This training enables you to start holding constellation sessions or groups after Systemic Family Constellation training online with Yildiz Sethi.
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