Marriage, Family and Individual counselling is also available with us.
Children of Divorced Parents
Many of us experience our parents divorce. This can mean that we don’t have a good role model of a relationship that is working. The children can often feel torn in loyalty between our parents. This can have an effect on our own relationships and parenting.
(This can also be true of parents who stay together in a dysfuctional way )
Are You Caught in the Web of Family Strife?
For many of us who grow up in difficult family situations, the first thing we do is to get away as quickly, or as far away from them as possible and then breathe a sigh of relief at having grabbed our independence.
However, down the track we often find to our horror that we become more and more like our parents, or recreate a similar pattern.
We may find our own children run away from us as soon as they can, or we suffer depression, an anxiety symptom, emotional abuse or some other emotional disturbance, or keep getting into difficult relationships.
In running away we haven’t solved the problem, we have just turned our back on it, only to come out unconsciously in our choices and behaviors or Self-sabotage. Some other ways that these issues come back to haunt us, is in our choice of partners, or the way we sabotage our business or career.
What to do about it? Many turn to workaholism, counselling, coaching, valium or spirituality, thinking these can heal our wounds. All of these can help, but often don’t get to the root of it, or resolve it fully.
Now you can do something about it for your self through Family Constellations, so that you can find some inner peace and a healthier connection to your roots, that allows you more freedom and vitality.
What is it that ties us so strongly to our family tree? Often our situation is not completely ours individually. It is often part of the family dynamic and may have been passed down to us from previous generations. A constellation will often show your issue in a very different light from the way you see, feel, or experience it.
One Parent Families
Coping as a sole parent whether you are a male or female, is a huge burden of responsibility. Doing this without resentment or guilt so that your children can develop a healthy sense of self and respect for both sexes in a society that often no longer have many extended families can be quite isolating for both the parent and the children. Constellation work can be of great benefit to both the parents and children of one parent families in helping to provide, help and strength to the parents.
For many, blended families are now a norm. How can you balance the needs of each partner with those of the children from both partners and also past partners? A Family Constellation can show you how to balance the demands of blended families, in order to make the most of these potentially rich relationships for children and the adults involved.
This is a very difficult issue for many adoptees and adoptive parents. It is not widely recognised how difficult it is to accept being given up for adoption by your biological parents. Often these children are fortunate in having good care givers to bring them up, however the link between them and their biological group is often missing, leaving the person always feeling like the odd one out in any personal or work situation. Family Constellations can help to heal the wounds of adoption and reconnect you more healthily to the important people in your life.
Adoptive parents can also benefit from looking at their situation through Family Constellations and gain a new understanding of the dynamics of their children or marriage partners. The divorce rate in adoptive parents is relatively high, perhaps due to the stresses and strains of this situation.