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Family Constellations in a nutshell Yildiz Sethi

Family Constellations is a powerful, phenomenological, experiential modality that provides pathways out of disturbances, burdens, patterns and trauma inherited through the family system. The founder of Family Constellations is the German psychotherapist Bert Hellinger.

 

The process facilitates a healthier reconnection to the love therein so as to nurture a sense of worthiness. Worthiness is at the core of self-esteem, the potential for happiness and success. The Family Constellation process may take place in workshops or private sessions.

 

Family Constellations locates the roots of human emotional and psychological disturbances that come from the family system that may be experienced through what is known in constellation arenas as the Knowing field. It is a complete psychotherapy modality with its own philosophy, theory and practice for the resolution of a wide range of systemic (generational related) issues and trauma.

 

Sethi recognised that human beings carry two strands of potential disturbances that can hold them back from being the person they can be. These have their roots in either the family system, or personal life choices and experiences, or both. Sethi recognised that each required a specialised approach to enable accurate and effective treatment.

 

The problem is, we attempt to solve more stubborn, destructive or uncomfortable thoughts, feelings or behaviours with logic or behavioural strategies when they often have their roots in generational patterns or the unconscious mind. This means that thinking it through, or applying strategies to a problem with its roots locked in fear or trauma cannot provide an effectively lasting solution if the chosen approaches are not equipped to deal with them at the appropriate level or manner.

 

The good news is the generational mind is not only the source of problems, but also a treasure trove of wisdom, creativity, innovation and possibilities as each of us are the result of all that has gone before us. This means we each have access to a rich pool of possible resources. When these are elicited they can allow you to find your best solutions and result in a deep understanding of yourself and others. From this place new perspectives can materialise from which to move forward with more confidence with the potential for more joy and better relationships.

 

The Ancestral Brain is discussed in this article http://familyconstellations.com.au/make-peace-with-yourself-through-family-constellations/

These ideas are confirmed by the study of epigentics that shows that we carry much more from our ancestors than we had previously assumed.

 

Epigentics is showing that trauma, disturbed emotions and patterns are inextricably linked or embedded in the DNA we receive at birth. This means that a person who comes from a particular culture will receive the essence of what has gone before them in that culture. Of course this includes love and belonging and also the shocks their family system has experienced particularly those that could not be processed at the time. These may include societal or family trauma, genocide, the effects of war and famine as well as unresolved relational and emotional pain. These feelings and shocks appear to reside largely in our blind spots. In our unconscious mind or in what I have come to think of as our generational mind or ancestral brain and come out in feelings behaviour and patterns in our life.

 

Family Constellations sits in a phenomenological framework and is brief, experiential and solution-focused that is at the forefront of psychotherapy developments for the twenty first century and suitable for a wide range of mental health and personal development issues alike. It is cost effective in providing treatment suitable for the broad population of any culture.

 

Yildiz Sethi is a psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, Family Constellation facilitator and trainer, educator and author and the founder of Rapid Core Healing and Emotional Mind Integration. Her latest book Rapid Core Healing pathways to growth and emotional healing (2016) is available on Amazon.

 

Yildiz provides training in Family Constellations, Rapid Core Healing and Emotional Mind Integration.

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The Ancestral Brain

At this time in our history most of us are conditioned into believing we are self sufficient and autonomous. This is what modern men and women believe is empowering.

What has become apparent is that this is not totally true.

The study of epigentics is showing that we carry much more from our ancestors than we had previously assumed.

Epigentics is showing that trauma, disturbed emotions and patterns are inextricably linked or embedded in the DNA we receive at birth. This means that a person who comes from a particular culture will receive the essence of what has gone before them. Of course this includes love and belonging and also the shocks their family system has experienced particularly those that could not be processed at that time. These may include societal or family trauma, genocide, the effects of war and famine as well as unresolved relational pain. These feelings and shocks appear to reside largely in our blind spots. In our unconscious mind or in what I have come to think of as our generational mind.

While it is true that you are a unique individual, you are also highly relational.

Originally we were born into tribes and formed strong bonds of loyalty to each other. This served a purpose. It served the survival of the tribe and the individuals within it. Being disconnected or excluded from the group would often result in death.

My work with individuals shows repeatedly that such tribal or relational connections are much more important that most people realise. At our core our tribal identity is still pivotal to our health and wellbeing. We are born into families with an intense deep web of loyalties and connections with others. We are deeply linked to all that has gone before us and to people we have never met.

This is how we may be born into a sense of guilt, shame, sadness, anger or sabotage patterns that make no logical sense to the biography of our individual lives. And yet they continue to play out until they are resolved.

Many of us believe that awareness is the answer. I have found that being aware is only one step and does not provide a more fulfilling solution. Awareness is a knowing that is conscious. It does not in itself have the power to resolve the underlying dynamics that operate within us. This involves unconscious, loyalties and conflicts and such elements as emotions, visions and messages that are part of our family system. In many cases attempting to think through such deeply felt issues does not resolve them, as they often require experiential processing. This takes place at deeper levels of the psyche and includes the body, heart and also generational consciousness in order to be resolved and released.

I often have clients who have done much personal development who are frustrated that they have not been able to free themselves from the patterns that bind them from being able to develop and enjoy their life with more freedom. Deeply help patterns appear to be stubborn to resolution by conventional counselling or coaching.

I have been working with Family Constellations since 2005 in holding monthly workshops and private sessions.

Prior to that I was a counsellor psychotherapist and unaware of the effects of the family system on myself and those close to me. I had no idea of the patterns that were unconsciously running in me, and the effects they were having on my wellbeing and relationships. The discovery through Family Constellations was groundbreaking in that it gave me an avenue to come to peace with myself on many levels. From here I was able to more consciously navigate my life. This became a significant crossroad in my life resulting in a radical change in the way I worked with clients. I embraced Family Constellations as a more authentic way of helping others make deep and effective changes in themselves and their lives.

I found that change had to start with me first. I had to go through my own processing within my system to allow space for an arrival to a better place. Only then could this flow out to those around me. Previously my unconscious patterns even with good intentions, were running the show. I was not fully capable of providing a way forward for others and their family systems when I was coming from a place of entanglement and confusion myself.

I was not in the right place to hold a space for the healthy unfolding and resolution in others until I had experienced my own.

It is exciting to be working with Family Constellations at a time when neural science and epigentics are becoming mainstream and educating the public in how genetic memory travels through generations and how the brain is capable of rewiring itself. Rewiring new neural pathways for better feeling, mindset, health and wellbeing.

I look forward to the time when doctors, alternative and traditional health workers refer patients to Family Constellations practitioners as part of a wholistic health practice in knowing that healthily connected individuals are more likely to respond favourably to healing methodologies when they are at peace with themselves and their bloodlines.

Ends Copyright Yildiz Sethi

Yildiz holds Family Constellation workshops in Brisbane, Melbourne and Sydney and is available for private sessions and training. www.familyconstellations.com.au.

She is the director of family Constellations P/L

Yildiz is an Australian psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, family constellations facilitator and trainer. She is the innovator of Rapid Core Healing and Emotional Mind Integration and Author. Her latest book is Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and Emotional Healing. www.rapidcorehealingbook.com

Organisations involved in training or growth interested in training courses of Family Constellations, Rapid Core healing or Emotional Mind Integration courses or applications may contact her on +61412 172 300 yildiz@yildizsethi.com or see www.rapidcorehealing.com

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Is Communication the most important factor?

  1. 1 Communication

Family Constellation tip- Love heals.

What do you think is the most important order of qualities to maintain a long term relationship?

Communication Chemistry or Compatibility?

 

How you communicate in a relationship is very important. In fact many feel that if a relationship is in crisis then working on the communication is what is required to fix any problems. However trying to Fix a relationship when there is no basic compatibility is a relatively shallow resolution that may not have any lasting effect.

Chemistry is also very important particularly at the beginning of a relationship. However, this often wears off over time, especially if true compatibility is not present.

Many people reile too heavily on Chemistry as an indicator of a great attraction and then when it starts to fail may try to look at communication.If basic compatibility is not present for along term relationship, then this will also be insufficient for a deeper connection.

From a Family Constellation perspective  it may be necessary to look at the underlying dynamic of what each of a couple are caught up in from their family of origin. This is often the key to compatibility.

While a Family Constellation cannot ensure you stay together it can help you to find your place within and hence find a better place from which to connect to others in relationship. Many couple do in fact stay together after a constellation

Generally a Family Constellation helps you free yourself from unhealthy entanglements and loyalties and enables you to receive and give love more freely. This is a gift in itself as love heals.

Coming from a fuller more harmonious centre can only have a positive spin-off in all areas of your life, relationships, career and wellness.

Namaste’ May the God/Goddess in me see the God/Goddess in you.

Family Constellation Training Super Early Bird Coming up 1 Aug

Family Constellation Training

9 day intensive 2-10 January.
This is a unique personal development and Family Constellation Training course that is primarily experiential. We hold this 9 day training only once per year. It is an ideal opportunity for this who live interstate or internationally to come to do the training in one intensive.
This is a course for practitioners. If you are not a practitioner and are interested, please contact us to discuss your suitability.

In this course you will learn about Family dynamics, Blind Love, Entanglements, Order. Loyalty and how patterns are passed on though the Family of Origin into Present family situations.

You will be given notes and through teaching and discussion and experiencing the dynamics of your own constellation and those of the group you will be proceed on your own personal journey of clearing and clarifying so you may walk in your rightful place in both your personal and professional life.

This Family Constellation Training is also a deep personal growth course.
If you are someone who really wants to understand about family and relationship dynamics and gain the tools and experience to step into your rightful place in your family with more clarity and peace. then you will find this course invaluable. With this knowledge you may aspire to be the best that you can be and gain a deeper understanding of those around you.

For more information 

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Family ConstellationPersonal Development 6 Day Intensive.
A New Course for those who really want to understand themselves and their families:

‘Healing from the Roots Advanced  Experiential Growth course. Six day Personal Development.’

consists of 2 modules.

Module 1 (3 days) Family of origin.

Module 2 (3 days) Present family

  • Learn about Family Dynamics for personal and relational growth.
  • One of our most important first tasks in personal development is in
    Knowing, Accepting and eventually loving ourselves.
  • This course will assist you in re establishing yourself and your connections in a healthy way so that you can fulfil your potential as a human being now.

We all come from families and are a product of all those that have gone before us.Take the opportunity to receive a constellation in both your original family AND your present situation for deep clearing through the learning experience.

If you are someone who really wants to understand about family and relationship dynamics and gain the tools and experience to step into your rightful place in your family with more clarity and peace. then you will find this course invaluable. With this knowledge you may aspire to be the best that you can be and gain a deeper understanding of those around you. In finding your place in your original family and discovering the underlying patterns of relational and generational dynamics, you may free yourself in the present for new possibilities.

Learn about Family Dynamics.

Take the opportunity to receive a constellation in both your original family AND your present situation for deep clearing through the learning experience. For more information

For more information see the calendar

Yildiz and Satish have received training from Bert Hellinger and Svagito Leibermeister and have been running regular workshop since 2005 in Brisbane and Sydney Australia. More informationFamily Constellation Training
2-10 January
Brisbane$2800EB 2547Super EB $2100 1 Aug More details

Family Constellation Personal Development

6 Day Intensive
Healing from the Roots Advanced, Experiential, Growth course.
Six day Personal Development

2-7 January 2016
Brisbane

$1900

EB $1700 1 Sept

Super EB $1550 1 Aug

More details 07 3161 6171

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New developments in Family Constellations

Celebrations!! 
Family Constellations Pty Ltd is now in its 10th year of operation, offering an experienced and effective service with us.
 Yildiz and Satish started Family Constellations in 2005 and have run regular workshops in Brisbane and Sydney. Our experience is extensive, so you may be assured of the highest quality service.

Because we are always being asked the differences between each of the following, I have outlined them here. In Family Constellations what is being a representative, doing your own constellation. The difference between the 1 or 2 day workshop, Personal development intensive, Family Constellations Training?
1 Attending as a Representative
Being a representative and observer is a great entry level into Family Constellations. It is a wonderful way to experience the process to see to see if it may be a suitable one for you.
You are likely to gain awareness and learning about relationships in general that may well be of assistance in your own life. Being a representative in a Family Constellations workshop can help you gain insight and awareness into your own situation, relationships and emotions. Great insight can be gained. Many people report great shifts or awareness raising of their own situation from being a participant.
You may be asked to take part in other people’s constellations You have the opportunity to see the facilitator at work,
2 Doing your own Family Constellation or Business Constellation 
After a short discussion with the facilitator you will be asked to pick representatives of the people of the issue and place them in relation to each other. This sets up the constellation and shows the underlying dynamic of your situation. The constellation taps into the energy field of the family and the situation and the facilitator guides it to a place of more order. This is a solution focused, experiential process that is brief. Constellations places are limited and booked at registration.
3 What is the difference between the

One and Two day workshops?
 One day workshop
During this workshop a number of constellations take place in the day. This is a powerful day of experiences that will often touch each person on several levels due to the variety of the constellations that take place. All participants may be chosen to take part in constellations throughout the day.
 Two days workshop
This is the same as a one day workshop but with more constellations. This is a powerful two days of experiences that will often touch each person on several levels due to the variety of the constellations that take place. All participants may be chosen to take part in constellations throughout the workshop.
A New Course for those who really want to understand themselves and their families:
’Healing from the Roots Advanced Healing Experiential learning course. Six day Personal Development.’
consists of 2 modules.
Module 1 (3 days) Family of origin.
Module 2 (3 days) Present family
Learn about Family Dynamics.
Take the opportunity to receive a constellation in both your original family AND your present situation for deep clearing through the learning experience.
If you are someone who really wants to understand about family and relationship dynamics and gain the tools and experience to step into your rightful place in your family with more clarity and peace. then you will find this course invaluable. With this knowledge you may aspire to be the best that you can be and gain a deeper understanding of those around you. In finding your place in your original family and discovering the underlying patterns of relational and generational dynamics, you may free yourself in the present for new possibilities.
In this course you will learn about Family dynamics, Blind Love, Entanglements, Order. Loyalty and how patterns are passed on though the Family of Origin into Present family situations.
You will be given notes and through teaching and discussion and experiencing the dynamics of your own constellation and those of the group you will be proceed on your own personal journey of clearing and clarifying so you may walk in your rightful place in both your personal and professional life.
For more information see the calendar
Family Constellation Training
9 day intensive 2-10 January.
A unique personal development and Family Constellation Training course that is primarily experiential. For more information 
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A Helpers group is starting.
If you have attended our Family Constellations workshops and would like to volunteer your time to helping out in the workshops in Sydney or Brisbane please let us know. This is a great opportunity for people to stay in the field and to contribute and connect. Please email me to indicate your interest.
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Case studies required.
I have been asked to provide a case study of Family Constellations for an article I am writing for a publication, from some one who is willing to provide a name and photograph and their constellation briefly. If you are willing to do this please let us know. For this you may choose to come to a workshop free as a representative or have my latest hardcopy book Be Rich AND Spiritual. I look forward to hearing from you.
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A new start

attractive-womanThe festive season is not the happiest time for many people.

For many, meeting family members can be stressful or even painful. For others it is a time of isolation. Many old stories and memories are stirred up. If you have painful memories that are getting in the way of coming to place of peace then perhaps this is an opportunity to put them to rest and make a new start.

 

 

Jane came to a workshop wanting to increase her sense of femininity.  Even though she was attractive she said she felt unattractive and had little confidence with men. In looking at her family system she came from a long line of women who had not been able to sustain relationships for many generations. She came from a European country that had sustained many wars, invasions and significant violence not only to the menfolk but also to women and children.

 

Jane’s constellation revealed many secrets from the female line and also the sadness of the men that could not stand in their place as men with pride, such was the emaciation of personal and national history.

 

Much grief was released in the constellation on many levels and the men were able to honor the women for their strength in carrying on where they didn’t. Strong men ancestors were bought in to support the men and the women and Jane was at last able to stand up with pride and feel her feminine strength and beauty.