Family Constellations

Shame Australia Shame

Our government is violating human rights in our name. Human beings are beings violated on Manus island where real people like you and I are being deprived of food and water and imprisoned. They are being punished for having the misfortune of being born into political, religious, or financial regimes where freedom of thought and speech are denied and brutality, rape, deprivation, torture or death are commonplace.

 

Their quest for sanctuary from pitiful situations is being shunned by Australia through the spin of righteous border protection and fearmongering about difference, culture, religion, language and terrorism.

 

Many of these people in the present have been found to be genuine refuges according to United Nations conventions and yet the Australian government continues punitive actions that deny welcome, safety and freedom. The government so punitive and devious, that they have shelved their shameful response to a global humanitarian crisis onto an impoverished country Manus. Australia has even denied the generous invitation of New Zealand to alleviate a crisis by offering to take them into their own country.

 

We seem to have forgotten that most of us unless we have aboriginal ancestry are relatively newcomers to this colonised land. Australian colonisation continues into the present by those who are fortunate enough to fulfil the criteria required to gain entry and is a highly successful multiracial society. Many people from a wide range of cultures including former boatpeople are now upstanding members of our society.

 

But what of those who flee for their lives leaving everything behind with nowhere to go?

 

All nations are opening their borders in these difficult times.

 

The world is witnessing our shame.

 

In Australia we have a history that we are not facing. We are still struggling to fully acknowledge the treatment of our forebearers towards our indigenous people. This was an invasion marked by violence, blood and injustice that to this day has not been properly acknowledged, by word, law or appropriate action. A simple ‘sorry’ by Kevin Rudd was a touching move in a healing direction, but not enough.

 

Aboriginal people are still disadvantaged and lack the autonomy and dignity to run their lives, in their own way and remain largely excluded in their home land.

 

Such scars leave an imprint on both the victims and those of us who have gained from their exclusion. That is all non-indigenous people. This leaves the weight of guilt that is carried for generations to come until it is seen, felt and honoured, and most of all put right.

For some reason Australian consciousness can open its hearts to survivors of the holocaust and at the same time feel justified in their cruelty to people in need of help now.

 

We are setting a deep karmic pattern by our silence. In the Family Constellations process it is repeatedly found that many people are blocked from fulfilling their potential by a sense of guilt that is often traced back to what happened in previous generations. They carry the weight of their forebearers through the systemic mind until it can be seen, accepted and resolved in such processes as a Family Constellation. This has the power to set them free, if done sincerely. Nations carry guilt too.

 

Lets wake up and insist on compassion, generosity and safety for those who have fallen on hard times and stop allowing our government to act so shamefully in our name. Lets learn from our past and stop a humanitarian disaster unfolding on our doorstep as we look away, so that our children do not have to look back in shame at our complacency and acceptance of vilification and cruelty.

 

Let the world instead focus on the global inequities of power and finance and the governing tyrants at the roots of mass migration to find a sustainable solution rather than punishing the victims.

 

As a Family Constellation practitioner I facilitate such healing on a daily basis but cant stay silent any longer about what is being done in my name. Prevention is always better than attempting to cure.

 

While the Family Constellation process is powerful in promoting healing, love and connection, let us bring our humanity to the forefront as Australians of 2017 in the name of peace, love and a fair go.

 

I hold Family Constellations workshops regularly and have a training coming up soon in January 2018 so that many more of us can take on the role of facilitators in our own corner of the nation in showing that love is a quality that can only grow in its sharing. A candlelight shared does not diminish, but continues to grow in brightness as it spreads through a sea of candles.

 

Nothing is lost by its sharing.

 

I visualise a time when Family Constellations are taking place on every street throughout the country and we have reconnected with our hearts and see each other regardless of race or class, as a reflection of ourselves or our loved ones, so that divisions, prejudice and racism are a thing of the past.

 

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Yildiz is a Brisbane psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, family constellations facilitator and trainer, innovator of Rapid Core Healing and Emotional Mind Integration and Author. She is available for sessions and training and travels nationally and globally to train clinicians and run workshops for the general public.

 

Yildiz is available for professional development in mental health, trauma and training organisations.

Organisations involved in training or growth interested in training courses of Family Constellations, Rapid Core healing or Emotional Mind Integration courses or applications may contact her.

 

Her ideas are shared in her latest book
Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and Emotional Healing.
For Book details and sales see www.rapidcorehealingbook.com.au

 

Training

Family Constellation Training 3-11 January 2018 http://www2.rapidcorehealing.com.au/constellations

 

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“I did a degree in counselling which I found highly informative and enjoyable but when I started having clients I found I was poorly equipped to help people in a practical and meaningful way.” Karen

 

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“As a PhD graduate I couldn’t believe that a 9 day training in Family Constellations could transform my knowledge and skills so completely. I am now so much more confident about offering great service to the public in being able to deal so much more competently with the wide range of issues that come through my door.” Richard

 

“Having finally done Family Constellation training I don’t know why I didn’t do it before. This has given me all the tools I need to help my clients in so many ways and so deeply and quickly. It has changed my practice and my business completely”. Megan

 

Family Constellations training is designed to resolve systemic or ancestral issues that hold people back from living fuller lives of freedom. The training is perfect for mental health professionals, alternative medicine practitioners and coach’s who would like to gain a cutting-edge in being able to offer Business Constellations as a speciality.

 

Family Constellation training is also available for people who want to become facilitators.

 

Family Constellation Training is approved professional development with the ACA and AHA.

 

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Echos from the Past

Our culture encourages us to think of ourselves as individuals primarily. This is true of the modern west while other cultures continue to experience a deep connection to their lineage with an awareness of what they carry with their ancestors. From those cultures it is often possible for the people to have a deep respect and knowing of the names and the lives of their forefathers and mothers and the events that shaped their lives.

 

Our individual perception is a problem for us because it means we are missing a realm of experience that continues to be present in our blind spots. Behaviour, thoughts, feelings and patterns that play out in us, as if they have a life of their own that may feel foreign to us. It is not in our conscious awareness and yet it is present and wants to be seen.

 

There is no doubt that most of what we carry especially DNA is essential for our survival. DNA is the code of our existence and functions. However our genetic imprint is transferred through the emotional and sensual impulse of our ancestors on a deep well of love. A love that connects one generation to the next with sex, emotion and love connecting us all. From desire, attraction and sex we come into the world. Once here whether we are a surprise, wanted or inconvenient, parents largely take responsibility for their actions and do what they can to support and nurture us in the best way they can with what they have and what they know.

 

If we consider this we may appreciate the value of those who came before us.

 

Systemic disturbances occur due to tragedies, shocks, trauma and exclusions of people in our family system. Such disturbances often result in shame or simply too much to process, overwhelm and having no where to go leaves an echo in our shared DNA. The study of epigentics demonstrates this clearly. Trauma and deep emotions leave an imprint through relational bonds and seek expression in us. This comes out as behaviour patterns, feelings and thoughts and also dis- ease of many kinds.

 

Family Constellations is a systemic process that shows what we carry for and with our family system and this includes the blocks and unresolved disturbances from the past as well as the love at its core. This includes health issues of every kind that may seek expression in the system.

 

A Family Constellation can locate the echoes that are calling you, giving you the opportunity to find our more about your ancestral line and what drives and sustains you and possibly resolve systemic health issues.

 

We know that many illnesses have a genetic component. However, epigentics has shown that many disease genes may be turned on or off according to our choices in life style, psychological health and emotional states. We also know that the separation between mind and body is largely undefined as they are deeply interlinked. This means that anything that can relieve or resolve these imprints may make a difference to our overall health.

 

In Family Constellations workshops people often arrive who want to look at an illness or dis- ease that can be traced back to a shock or imprint from former generations. Simply exposing them and allowing the system to release them and find a better order can be sufficient to allow more freedom for a person in the present that promotes better health. After such a process a person may be able to continue with their medical practitioners in a more productive way with the seat of the disturbance exposed.

 

Through my Family Constellation experience of over twelve years I have witnessed many health changes following a constellation process. Of course we mustn’t forget that at some point we all face death and there are cases where nothing can be done, other than a constellation to assist in coming to better place of acceptance and peace.

 

As a facilitator and trainer I regularly hold workshops and training to facilitate inner healing, reconnection to the family system and to the bigger realms of humanity. This can nourish a sense of belonging and result in more wellbeing.

 

I am holding an advanced Disease and Wellness Constellation training on 10-12 November, International Family Constellations foundation training on 3-11 January 2018 and a workshop on 18-19 November 2017. Through these my intention is to provide a place where people can connect with themselves in a fuller way and reconnect to their people and the vastness of humanity.

In listening to the echo’s from the past in a process such as Family Constellations it is possible for each of us to become more whole, grounded and humble and still fulfil our potential as human beings. It also alerts us to the fact that our own lives and actions also have an imprint on future generations, both individually and collectively. Its easy to see what effects our treatment of the indigenous people of this land has had on the present generation who continue to struggle with a legacy of injustice and poor self esteem. Its probably not surprising that they suffer a higher than average rate of poor health and both the descendants of aborigines and those who benefit from their loss, (the rest of us) continue to carry burdens. Both individual and national healing is required here.

 

A bigger collective perspective of us all that may be gained through a constellation allows us to gain an aware of our place, not only in our families but also in our culture and in the greater sea of humanity. In this we are all the same.

 

I envision a future where we embrace both our individual and collective view of ourselves and listen to the echo’s from the past and what they have to reveal. In this way we can experience a healthy release of disturbances that enrich us for better health and vitality. In this vision I see uniting and healing processes such as Family Constellations as part of the fabric of societies throughout the world in being a valuable in freeing and nurturing each generation by connecting them to the flow of love of us all. In such a world there is excitement, hope and better health.

 

 

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Yildiz is a Brisbane psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, family constellations facilitator and trainer, founder of Rapid Core Healing and Emotional Mind Integration and Author. She is available for sessions, workshops and training. Her latest book is Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and Emotional Healing.

0412 172 300 www.rapidcorehealing.com

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Organisations involved in training or growth interested in training courses of Family Constellations, Rapid Core healing or Emotional Mind Integration courses or applications may contact me.

 

Yildiz is available for professional development in mental health, trauma and training organisations.

 

These ideas are presented in her book Rapid Core Healing for Growth and Emotional Healing (2016)

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Power in Speaking Out on Sexual Misconduct. Yildiz Sethi


There is no doubt its time for women to speak out on sexual misconduct not only in the workplace but in daily life. Speaking out is a powerful and appropriate response that requires courage and clarity in giving back the guilt and shame to the perpetrators involved and a society that condones silence.

 

I know there are many men out there who cringe at how women are treated by their male colleagues who may also feel the need to speak up. We welcome your support at this time.

 

Speaking out is a response to the symptoms of patriarchy involving a deeply felt entitlement that still thrives in modern society forty years after women of the seventies burned their bras as a symbol of emancipation. There are still few women in positions of power and women continue to be judged in a way that does not take place with men, on their gender qualities and appearance.

 

The main problem as I see it is that women are not given a place to be who and how they are, that is of equal value. Present day women continue to be conditioned into playing roles of subservience. This includes navigating a web of unspoken rules where women are seduced into attempt to sooth their feminine insecurities around not being accepted or good enough by stroking the egos of men.

 

It’s a fact that its still not cool for women to show intelligence or capability in fields where men operate. There are few organisations where male ego, high testosterone levels and loyalty to the boys club may be put aside in favour of sound judgment based on merit and justice in providing a level playing field for both men and women.

 

Speaking out is a first step. It is action to let men know that what is taking place is not OK and changes need to be made.

 

But what of the women? Being heard has value but what do they do with their feelings, thoughts and trauma? Many may be advised to go to counselling, self-help groups or forums for sharing and support.

 

I have been working with victims of sexual abuse for many years. These consist of mainly women and some men, many of whom have received extensive counselling or long term involvement with self-help groups who have remained victimised and traumatised by what happened and consider themselves survivors of their abuse, often years later. They have not moved on.

 

Through my work I know that the incidence of sexual abuse is far larger than is reported. Many of my clients have not and prefer not to disclose or report sexual misconduct due to the shame and guilt they feel at being its victim and the fear of not being believed or receiving further ridicule. They don’t trust a justice system that is run primarily by men over seeing mainly male perpetrators.

 

I have developed a way of enabling recovery from sexual misconduct and abuse in all its shades that is brief, non-traumatising, sensitive, respectful and effective in only a few sessions. In this approach speaking out is a first step, releasing pent up emotions comes next and then offloading guilt and shame and reaffirming clear boundaries and taking back autonomy and dignity within is the average session sequence. The process is designed to avoid retraumatisation. This is a process where people come out of victimhood, recover their dignity and no longer hold shame or guilt and move forward in their lives in a more purposeful way in only a few sessions for most people. This is EMI Emotional Mind Integration and Family Constellations. This is presented in the book Rapid Core Healing (2016)

 

The power games we see in organisations are also present in the dynamics between couples and in families and play a large part in providing role models for children to aspire to. What children experience at home is often reaffirmed in education, particularly in same sex schooling and the media and is what they take out into the world. In this men need to step up and take responsibility for themselves in their role as fathers and husbands and women need to step up in solidarity with each other in insisting on equality and dignity across all fields of life: Personal and professional. Yin with Yang. Men and women complimenting each other and glorious in their own way. There is no need to put the other down due to insecurities and fear. Such families can provide real change for the next generation.

 

I believe we are at a crossroads where we can take stock of where were at and make the changes not only to the law, the court system, family or society, but also in our hearts and minds as human beings, fathers and mothers.
We need to upholding the right for women to take their place fully in society and this includes dismantling glass ceilings and the entitlement of mens’ networks to shut women out and stop them from developing their potential and allow them to fulfil their role as feminine beings. I visualise a time where women have the right to be who they ar with intelligence and pride and to share their sensuality only with those they choose. This is a human right.

 

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Yildiz is passionate about finding and creating what works to assist people in recovery and growth from trauma. She knows as a person in private practice she is limited in how many people she can treat and so she is providing training so that her methodologies are accessible to a greater proportion of the population for healing and the speedy recovery of a wide range of issues including trauma and sexual abuse.

 

Yildiz is holding a training in EMI on 27-29 Nov 2017

EMI Training

 

And a training in Family Constellations on 3-11 January 2018

Family Constellations Training

Yildiz is the founder of two psychotherapies, a psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, Family Constellations facilitator and educator/trainer and author of three books. Her latest book Rapid Core Healing Pathways to growth and emotional healing (2016). Yildiz lives and runs a private practice in Brisbane, Australia, travelling nationally and globally to train clinicians and run workshops for the general public.

 

Yildiz is available for professional development in mental health, trauma and training organisations.

 

Organisations involved in training or growth interested in training courses of Family Constellations, Rapid Core healing or Emotional Mind Integration courses or applications may contact her on yildiz@yildizsethi.com 0412 172 30

These ideas are presented in Rapid Core Healing for Growth and Emotional Healing (2016) Yildiz Sethi available from Amazon or www.rapidcorehealingbook.com.au

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Recovery after the Truth and Justice Royal Commission on Sexual abuse

Focus on Healing following the Truth and Justice Royal Commission into Sexual Abuse copyright Yildiz Sethi

 

The Truth and Justice Royal Commission into Sexual abuse is a powerful step in shining a light on what happens when we allow any organisation to become a moral and unfettered law unto itself in the name of religion, profit or so called higher powers. I applaud the unveiling of ‘in-house’ codes of behaviour where turning a ‘blind eye’ to dirty secrets is normalised into common practice.

 

The commission shows how a culture of loyalties, entitlement and corruption can fester in cloistered communities. Places where the natural functions of sexual desire are seen as dirty and inappropriate for those who follow Catholic or other devotion paths. In these movements natural sexuality is repressed with nowhere to go other than frustration, self loathing or perversity for some.

 

In these situations lie covers lie until turning back is too much of a step-down for the inflated egos of such organisations to contemplate.

 

A silent moral code was developed out of vested interests, outdated beliefs, depraved morals and religious power that remained unchecked by current societal standards. This became the rationale for putting the face of the church first and children and families last.

 

But what of the abused children, mums, dads and grandparents who have been cut adrift? Lives ruined.

 

What is being done about them?

 

There is no doubt that being heard and believed can be helpful and compensation can provide material comforts or pay for much needed services. But this is only the first step. Much more is needed not only to compensate for wrong doing or manage symptoms, but to aid recovery.

 

Such abuse shatters people in many ways.

 

It destroys faith in oneself, the system and religion. Causes the victim to suffer alone due to the shame they carry. Shame at the nature of the abuse itself and why they were singled out for it and for not being able to protect themselves, speak up or bring the perpetrators to justice. Shame is a powerful force.

 

In addition there is often the shame of secrecy in not disclosing to family due to the disbelief and turmoil it would cause. They are often highly aware of the trust and faith their families had in believing their children were receiving a safe and values-based education and ignorant of the hidden predatory nature of some within the organisation.

 

I do feel sorry for the clergy who had nothing to do with this betrayal because they too have been let down by the actions of a few who have been upheld by a corrupt system. They too are unjustly smeared by the disgrace.

 

The problem is the damage does not stop at the ones who were abused. The trauma of abuse sets up an intense range of conflicting feelings, thoughts and disturbances. Sometimes the abused person is so disturbed it spills out into abuse of others. Many victims of abuse self medicate their pain with substances such as drugs or alcohol and many become mentally ill. Their careers are frequently hard to maintain, family break up is common and many victims live a troubled life overall.

 

Sexual abuse is a crime that goes largely unreported. I know this because many of my clients come wanting help in recovery from unreported sexual abuse. Often unreported due to the feelings of shame and a lack of confidence in the justice system.

 

Such trauma can leave a destructive trail for many generations into the future: Broken parents unable to parent adequately and so the cycle continues. The consequences of abuse are vast.

 

Unfortunately there is a belief that significant recovery from sexual abuse is not possible. I have found this to be untrue, as I have facilitated countless people in putting their lives together in a meaningful ways in their recovery. Assisted them in putting the past where is needs to be, so they don’t have to consider themselves as worthless, broken or damaged goods any more. Enabled them to find their resources and create more so they can engage in life.

 

Traditionally, abused people are offered counselling. In my experience of working therapeutically over seventeen years, I have found that while there may be value in being heard this can also be retraumatizing. Traditional counselling, self help groups and management of symptoms often lead to individuals remaining victims of abuse, even many years later .

 

There is a better way.

 

As a psychotherapist I have found that going through what happened in a traumatic incident in detail unhelpful towards recovery. This is explained fully in my book Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and emotional healing (2016).

 

Incest is sexual abuse that runs through family systems. The shame and secrecy of it drives the abuse compulsions. Constellations show how such compulsions can lose their power through bringing them into light. This is the most powerful and effective way of resolving systemic sexual abuse patterns for. The Family Constellation goes deep to allow a solution to arise and order to be restored to the system so that the family members in the present can find their best place with it and move on with more freedom.
For seemingly non-systemic abuse that appears to start in the present I have developed a way of working with the trauma of sexual abuse called EMI (Emotional Mind Integration) that not only promotes survival, but also allows people to find healthier resolutions in their mind and heart. EMI is a powerful neuro-trance psychotherapy. The EMI process makes it possible to put the past behind them for the most part and move on in a productive way with more peace.

 

EMI presents a new way of viewing the mind as a range of emotional mind states. The modality locates disturbed or traumatised emotional mind states through specific neural pathways. This is an accurate, efficient and effective methodology that is highly sensitive to individual needs. The process is designed to locate the original event, find a suitable resolution through an EMI healing pathway and complete with integration within each session. This is not retraumatizing. Rather, it is relieving. In this way only a few sessions are required to enable a sexual abuse victim to move on with their life. This is a brief therapeutic approach.

 

The next Family Constellation training takes place in January 2018 Details

The next EMI Emotional Mind Integration training takes place in September 2017 Details

I have a vision of educating children into knowing that they never have to suffer being touched or used for the sexual gratification of adults under any circumstance. There are deeply integrated systems connecting education, justice and psychotherapeutic interventions with individuals, families and the wider public. Everyone knows where to go with the confidence of a fair hearing, so that such breaches and betrayals do not go unnoticed. No organisations are above the law and the societal moral codes of decency ensure children are free to be children and to grow into health open-hearted adults who have the potential to live rewarding lives.

 

 

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The next Emotional Mind Integration (EMI) training starts on 11 September 2017 Details www.emotionalmindintegration.com

The next Family Constellation training starts on 2 January 2018 Details http://familyconstellations.com.au/training_overview/

 

Yildiz welcomes enquiries from organisations involved in professional training

in mental health and recovery from trauma and sexual abuse related issues.

 

Yildiz is a Brisbane psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, family constellations facilitator and trainer, innovator of Rapid Core Healing and Emotional Mind Integration and Author. She is an educator/trainer and author of three books. She is available for sessions and training. Yildiz travells nationally and globally to train clinicians and run workshops for the general public.

Her latest book is Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and Emotional Healing. (2016)  www.rapidcorehealingbook.com.au

 

She may be contacted on yildiz@yildizsethi.com. +61 412 172 300

 

Here is who I am www.yildizsethi.com and this is how you may engage in

what I have to offer www.rapidcorehealing.com.

Book in NOW for a workshop or private sessions or contact me to discuss your needs. 0412 172 300 or EMI Training Family Constellations Training Contact

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Relationships matter for Healthy Self Esteem

 

Relationships matter because we are social beings. We are born into families, culture and society and we thrive on human connection..

And yet we are individuals. We live a combination of both the personal and social aspects of ourselves simultaneously.

Our entry into the world is our first experience of others and provides an initial impression of who we are through their eyes. Through this we form an image or feeling of who we are and this forms a deep psychological imprint from which self worth arises.

Children are egocentric in nature, in the way they think the world revolves around them. This means they easily assume the way people respond, behave or treat them is because of them. They assume they are the sole cause of responses in others.

If our parents are delighted to have us in their lives, we interpret this as being loved. We feel valued.

If our parents are going through difficult times or are distant, cool, sad or angry we take this on board too. We interpret this as them not being happy with us and we don’t feel valued. This may lead to seeking approval throughout life of partners, friends and colleagues.

The problem is if these early bonds are not formed well we carry them into adulthood.  We take this evaluation of ourselves into the world or feel responsible for the feelings of others. Feel guilty, sad or angry for no apparent reason. In my experience this is the basis of most self-esteem issues.

Self esteem is the core foundation for worthiness. Once we know this it is easy to see how our sense of worthiness affects our choices in relationships, career, success and wellbeing.

This is important for children and parents alike. As parents most of us love our children deeply and are unaware of what we carry in terms of emotional burdens and its affect on them, even with the best of intentions.

Feelings such as sadness are easily passed through generations via relational bonds. It’s easy to see how a sad mother rears a sad child and down the track a sad grandchild emerges.

This is a family system problem and yet most counsellors and psychotherapists are trained in personal therapies only that perceive clients as isolated beings on the whole. Most approaches are not equipped to look at the relational aspects of the human condition unless they are relationship or family therapies. Because of this many therapists feel the need to do further training in relationships or family therapies to spread their portfolio of offerings to clients.. Unfortunately each style of therapy is separate and often cones from a different philosophy and uses different terminologies which can be confusing for the client.

Hence we have a psychotherapy culture that is striated, resulting in therapists either doing endless training in different modalities to manage a range of client issues or sending their clients to specialists in specific areas..

While psychotherapy outcomes may indeed include encouraging personal responsibility and autonomy for their clients, in discovering who they are and how they perceive the world, the affects of family of origin bonding are often not addressed and remain unresolved.

If how we feel about ourselves is due to our early bonding or family patterns, this is not a purely personal problem and is likely to be unresolved if treated with individual psychotherapy when the family system is the fundamental issue.

Seeing many psychotherapy clients over 17 years I have noticed that individual approaches are unhelpful for deeper issues and particularly for those that have their roots in the family system.

My discovery of Family Constellations was a revelation in showing me another way to assist people in finding a better place with their family of origin and hence a better place within which results in higher self-esteem. More importantly the Family Constellation process is experiential and brief rather than lasting for months or years.

I have trained in many psychotherapy approaches including hypnotherapy and NLP and find value in each of them. However for those people who have spent their lives receiving psychotherapy or personal development who have not found a solution to their issue of (for example) poor self esteem, dealing with it in the context of the family system with the modality Family Constellations is often a powerful solution.

I look forward to a time where Family Constellations is as popular here as in Germany, Spain and South America where groups and private sessions take place in many suburbs and is embraced by the community; parents, children and grandparents alike as a practical solution to life issues.

I see a world where a more unified approach to counselling and psychotherapy is common place so as to work with both the personal and the family system issues that we carry in a unified and wholistic way.

I am excited to have developed the modality Rapid Core Healing which is presented in my book to be launched on 26 May in Brisbane Australia. The modality is presented with case studies and transcripts showing how it may be used by ‘people who help people’ in a seamless wholistic way for the benefit of all.

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Yildiz is the founder of two psychotherapies, a psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, Family Constellations facilitator and educator/trainer and author of three books. Her latest book Rapid Core Healing Pathways to growth and emotional healing (2016). Yildiz lives and runs a private practice in Brisbane, Australia, travelling nationally and globally to train clinicians and run workshops for the general public.

Organisations involved in training or growth interested in training courses of Family Constellations, Rapid Core healing or Emotional Mind Integration courses or applications may contact me on yildiz@yildizsethi.com

These ideas are presented in her book Rapid Core Healing for Growth and Emotional Healing (2016)

Contact yildiz@yildizsethi.com   +61412 172 300

Here is who I am www.yildizsethi.com and this is how you may engage in what I have to offer www.rapidcorehealing.com.

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Family Constellations couples help

Over many years I have seen many couples through my work. They are all unique, however there are some themes.

All relationships go through highs and lows and those that remain loving and strong develop ways of maintaining respect,  fun and resilience.

Janet and John have two young children.
Janet is the eldest of her siblings. Her mother became disabled and so she took on a parenting role for the family. In adulthood she married John who came from a family who experienced a series of challenges. He was a middle child who was often over looked in his family. He had low confidence.

Initially the relationship went well but when they came to see me 10 tears later Janet was exhausted, angry and depressed. John was frustrated and confused. Their sex life was almost non existent.
In looking at their relationship through a constellation it was clear that Janet was wearing the pants in the family. In the relationship she had the better job and was doing well in her career while John was struggling in his work.

Janet constellation helped her find a place as a child of her parents and to give up her role of over giving to others.

John’s constellation assisted him in finding his place as the middle child and connecting with his parents in a way that the hadn’t done in his childhood.He was able to connect with their love. He was connected to the his male ancestry to raise his self esteem.

In the couple constellation Janet was invited to allow John to take his role in the family. Janet found this difficult as she had been used to taking this role although taking this main role as well as staying on top of her career and looking after the children had resulted in a great deal of resentment and anger towards John. The constellation had invited John to step up in his role in the relationship.This releases janet but also challenged her to step back in allowing him to take his role. This is both liberating and challenging for each of he couple.

This formed the basis of changing the dynamics between them so they could recreate a more equal and resilient.

This is just one of many possible dynamics of relationships.

Constellations are appropriate for those who cannot find partner or those who keep attracting unsuitable partners.

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Couples Dynamics 1

Over many years I have seen many couples through my work. They are all unique, however there are some themes.

All relationships go through highs and lows and those that remain loving and strong develop ways of maintaining respect,  fun and resilience.

Janet and John have two young children.
Janet is the eldest of her siblings. Her mother became disabled and so she took on a parenting role for the family. In adulthood she married John who came from a family who experienced a series of challenges. He was a middle child who was often over looked in his family. He had low confidence.

Initially the relationship went well but when they came to see me 10 tears later Janet was exhausted, angry and depressed. John was frustrated and confused. Their sex life was almost non existent.
In looking at their relationship through a constellation it was clear that Janet was wearing the pants in the family. In the relationship she had the better job and was doing well in her career while John was struggling in his work.

Janet constellation helped her find a place as a child of her parents and to give up her role of over giving to others.

John’s constellation assisted him in finding his place as the middle child and connecting with his parents in a way that the hadn’t done in his childhood.He was able to connect with their love. He was connected to the his male ancestry to raise his self esteem.

In the couple constellation Janet was invited to allow John to take his role in the family. Janet found this difficult as she had been used to taking this role although taking this main role as well as staying on top of her career and looking after the children had resulted in a great deal of resentment and anger towards John. The constellation had invited John to step up in his role in the relationship.This releases janet but also challenged her to step back in allowing him to take his role. This is both liberating and challenging for each of he couple.

This formed the basis of changing the dynamics between them so they could recreate a more equal and resilient.

This is just one of many possible dynamics of relationships.

Constellations are appropriate for those who cannot find partner or those who keep attracting unsuitable partners.

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Don’t be a Mini-psychologist, be a great counsellor Yildiz Sethi

Find a point of difference

Family Constellations

It’s time for clinical professional counsellors, psychotherapists and hypnotherapists to stand up to be counted as professionals in our own right. I am a proud counsellor and hypnotherapist. I am proud of the tradition of counselling and its role in helping and healing. I have long been frustrated at the lack of recognition for our great profession. And worse now, is the trend toward mental health training and become something other than what we are.

Yes, the lack of Medicare rebate is an issue for us. But I see a deeper problem. How can we ask the medical system to give us legitimacy, when we haven’t given it to ourselves?

The time has come to better understand how to stand in the great gifts and uniqueness of our profession. Something that will be lost in trying to look like everyone else.

We are no longer a profession with a low level of education. Many have degrees, masters and PhDs, yet we remain excluded from the medical model (psychologists, doctors and psychiatrists) and unable to offer Medicare rebates. The medical model deals with mental health issues diagnosed by the diagnostic book DSM5 along with medication.

How long do we remain respectfully knocking at the door?

In a desperate attempt to gain credibility there has been a move by counselling associations ACA (Australian Counselling Association) and PACFA (Psychotherapists and Counselling Federation of Australia) to encourage members into mental health training.

I am concerned this is an attempt to transform counsellors and psychotherapists into ‘pseudo psychologists’ through adopting psychological terminology, methodology and diagnostics.

This is worrying.

In following this path, counsellors who adopt the medical model approach, put aside their valuable counselling and psychotherapy theory and practice. But no matter how much we mimic psychologists; we remain excluded from the Medicare rebate scheme. We become ‘mini psychologists’ with no real credibility and even worse, lose the valuable knowledge we have as alternative practitioners in the field.

Rather than mimic, let’s find a better way to be of service as professionals. It’s time for us to change our profile and position ourselves in offering services that are unique and of value to the public.

The medical model we are being urged towards consists of CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) in conjunction with medication to control symptoms. It’s important to understand a bit of its history and question its legitimacy.

CBT dates back to the 1960s. It was hailed as revolutionary compared to earlier Freudian and psychodynamic approaches. Freudian therapy was expensive and popular with the wealthy. In comparison, CBT was lauded as the scientific evidence-based approach and as such, appropriate for the public.

However, recent critiques of psychology research shows it mostly takes place in a closed, prescribed and preordained manner, rather than the open enquiry of true scientific process.

CBT is often the only approach researched whatsoever. It’s surprising that other legitimate modalities are typically excluded. I don’t see an honest attempt to source current ‘best practice.’ And this occurs in an environment where the co-dependent cohorts of CBT and the pharmaceutical industry remain intact as the foundations of the medical model.

Many effective approaches – in alignment with current discoveries in neuroscience – are going unnoticed and un-researched. Why is this? Because they are not CBT?

While we in the counselling profession have been stuck in our dilemma of exclusion, the coaching and personal development industry have stepped in. People who don’t wish to be aligned with the medical model or viewed as ‘sick’ now consult with a coach rather than approach the now-stigmatized counselling profession. See The Big Taboo. Link https://www.linkedin.com/post/edit/big-taboo-yildiz-sethi

We do not have to accept being stuck in the same time-warp as the medical model.

We are free to move on if we change our mind-set. Exert our professionalism and our points of difference.

Let’s be creative and embrace innovation and high quality professional development to improve and fine-tune what we offer to our clients in being effective. There have been considerable advancements in psychotherapy philosophy and practice as a result of neuroscience and epigenetics research. Let’s come out from below the radar of the mental health model and bring these discoveries with us.

I took on the challenge of innovating in the fertile climate of evolving science and my own evidence, to become the most effective practitioner I could be. I’m imagining a world where every counsellor does this in their own way, and that we learn from one another too.

I was able to create two psychotherapy modalities, which fuse the best of the past and present in psychotherapy, neuroscience, epigenetics and trance work.

I present this in my latest book Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and Emotional Healing. (2016) In this I present the new modality RCH (Rapid Core Healing) that includes Family Constellations and EMI (Emotional Mind Integration) in a unified wholistic approach.

It is rapid, locating core issues and providing naturally occurring healing pathways to recovery. It is a body-sensed based approach dealing with the mind, body and spirit in a revolutionary way that transformed the way I work as a therapist. I am able to offer short-term results for most in 3-5 sessions for a wide range of issues. This includes anxiety, depression, panic attacks, self-esteem, and inner conflict, relationships, sexual abuse and trauma related issues.

I have no problem telling potential clients if they ask, I am not a psychologist and don’t offer Medicare rebates. I swiftly follow this with my experience of the benefits of the approaches I offer, and there are many. In short I emphasize my point of difference. There is no point in attempting to compete with psychologists.

I am grateful I didn’t become a psychologist, as this would have constricted me in an outdated medical model. I celebrate my freedom to stay up-to-date with latest developments in the field and create more effective ways of working.

There is a place between the medical model and personal development that counselling and psychotherapy can legitimately occupy. We work effectively with depression, anxiety, lifestyle, wellbeing and relationship issues. If we gain the skills and knowledge to work most effectively with our clients and have the courage to develop the healthy pride required to take our place, we will create an alternate and exciting future for our profession.

Stop apologizing for not being a psychologist able to offer Medicare rebates. Do charge appropriately for your education, experience, knowledge and effectiveness in facilitating positive change.

I call on you to find your point of difference. Embrace it, glorify it, and enjoy the freedom it offers. Give yourself permission to stand tall, grow and expand your knowledge and have a thriving practice. Find what works and become really effective at what you offer. Find your niche and hone it.

I have a vision of the professions of counselling, psychotherapy and hypnotherapy taking their place between the medical model and personal development. We’d offer highly effective services to the public, free of stigma and full of hope, consisting of speedy effective pathways to recovery. These ideas are presented in my book Rapid Core Healing for Growth and Emotional Healing (2016).

Lets start a discussion on this subject.

Yildiz is a proud counsellor/psychotherapist: the founder of two psychotherapies, a clinical hypnotherapist, Family Constellations facilitator and educator/trainer and author of three books. Her latest book Rapid Core Healing Pathways to growth and emotional healing (2016). Yildiz lives and runs a private practice in Brisbane, Australia, travelling nationally and globally to train clinicians and run workshops for the general public.

Organizations involved in training or growth interested in courses or applications may contact her.

Contact yildiz@yildizsethi.com

0412 172 300

Here is who I am www.yildizsethi.com and this is how you may engage in what I have to offer www.rapidcorehealing.com.

 

 

 

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“The personal development industry has blown out over recent years. It provides a range of forums to raise awareness and growth and offers pathways to wellness and success. These appeal to men and women who are focused on fulfilling their potential” said personal development specialist.

 

Yildiz said, “The latest developments in epigentics show that we are influenced by what we inherit and in turn have an effect on future generations.”

 

“There is no doubt parent-child relationships are fundamental in influencing our development. They contribute to how we feel, who we become and how we interact with others.

 

“They affect how we present ourselves in the world. It is here our wounding may be perpetuated through generations.”

 

“Many of us vow to do a better job than our parents but go overboard in our zeal to over compensate and create unintentional effects. This is also problematic.”

 

“There is no such thing as perfect and the middle ground of ‘good enough’ is plenty, as this has more balance and leaves room for growth.”

 

“The dynamics from family influences become the ‘blue print’ from which we operate in all areas of life.”

 

“However, when ‘disordered’ they entangle and restrict us. This often feels like a weight and may be experienced as emotional or psychological burdens, blocks or sabotage. When in ‘Good Order’ they support us”

 

“In modern societies many of us think of ourselves as individuals that are self determining entities. In reality this is not totally honest, as we don’t have the whole picture.”

 

“We are individuals, yes, but also the product of all that has gone before us in our family systems. “

 

“In our family systems we receive love and nurturing. But we also receive unresolved, disturbed senses coming from our connections with our forefathers and mothers. These are unconscious for the most part and may be considered as systemic blocks.”

 

“Such patterns can’t be resolved by affirmations, attempting to change behaviour, willpower or positive thinking alone. This is why coaching, personal development or counselling are insufficient to deal with them effectively. “

 

“Instead a systemic process is better equipped to deal with such patterns. The process of Family Constellations is effective at resolving systemic blocks. “

 

“Systemic Constellations is a process that resolves the underlying dynamics that holds us back.”

 

“The Constellation process originates in Germany and is becoming recognised world-wide as an effective way of resolving systemic blocks,. This often requires one session and may take place in a group process or private session.”

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“Through systemic resolutions it is possible to re-sett the ‘blue print’ of how we operate in life. A new inner world is formed from which new possibilities may arise.”

 

“From an epigentic perspective this provides the opportunity to heal personal wounds for yourself and pass on a clearer genetic ‘blue-print’ to your children.”

 

Yildiz presents these ideas in her book Rapid Core Healing Pathways ot growth and Emotional Healing (2016) Available from Amazon or www.rapidcorehealingbook.com

 

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Yildiz Sethi has been running Family Constellations workshops and private sessions since 2005 and offers training. For more information see www.familyconstellations.com.au

 

Yildiz is the founder of two psychotherapies, a clinical hypnotherapist, Family Constellations facilitator and educator/trainer and author of three books. Her latest book Rapid Core Healing Pathways to growth and emotional healing (2016). Yildiz lives and runs a private practice in Brisbane, Australia, travelling nationally and globally to train clinicians and run workshops for the general public.

 

Organisations involved in training or growth interested in courses or applications may contact me on yildiz@yildizsethi.com

 

Contact yildiz@yildizsethi.com

 

0412 172 300

 

Here is who I am www.yildizsethi.com and this is how you may engage in what I have to offer www.rapidcorehealing.com.