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Disconnection, Peace of Mind

and Family Constellations

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I have a dream of being born into a loving and nurturing family. Having parents who are wise, loving and caring and know how to provide a healthy environment. This includes good boundaries and a good balance between exploration and safety. Parents who come from generations of fulfilled and open hearted people with high emotional sensitivity and intelligence. In such a place there are life-long connections and room to grow and explore individuality and potential.

This is a child’s dream. Reality is not like that for most of us.

We are autonomous, independent, free spirits navigating and pursuing our dreams and creating our reality; seeking to fulfil our potential and make meaning of our lives. Yet more of us are unhappy, lonely, depressed and anxious in a society endowed with affluence, sophistication, choice and comfort. More of our children are suffering learning and social difficulties and have addictions.

We are connected and yet so disconnected. Connected in social media, in seeking membership of fashionable, social groups and scenes and yet alienated in reality. Growing numbers of people have poor connections with family, home and culture. Are out of step with nature and the land and with little sense of belonging.

What has gone wrong?

We are so busy, distracted and caught up in our mind, that friendships become loose and transient. A large proportion of families are nuclear in having little connection or support from extended family. Many have lost the art of communication, sharing and nurturing.

It is common to see a family group with individually members consuming their own version of cyberspace through phones, tablets, constantly streaming media and social media while sitting in a coffee bar together. Unaware of the presence of each other, the people they most love. Their distraction with each other as they consume other realities and illusions resulting in a lack of communication, This often forms a state where avoiding eye contact becomes the norm. So much so, the thought of such intimacy (into me you see) becomes anxiety provoking, due of its lack of familiarity.

No wonder more people are feeling lonely, depressed and anxious.

What does this do to children?

What are we teaching them?

In my thirst for adventure and independence I moved from a close-knit family in England to Australia. So caught up in the impulse and adventure that I didn’t notice my own deeply held connections withering on the vine. My children losing their sense of belonging to a bigger collective. Losing contact with the sea of familiar faces, smells, sounds and culture that was part of their heritage. Later, becoming angry at their sense of isolation. There was a cost.

Isolation can come in many shapes and sizes

There is a need to come back to reality. Acknowledge that we are a product of our family, culture, nature and the earth. They nourish and sustain us..

We must not forget we are individuals and also collective beings. Human beings who are built to perceive ourselves through our relational bonds. There is a need to acknowledge and accept both sides of our humanity.

In essence we remain tribal, hence our impulse to congregate in cyberspace.

It was Family Constellations that bought me back to myself, my connections and my roots. Helped me to reconnect with myself in a healthier manner, so I could receive the connections and nurturing to feed my soul.

Yes there is still a physical distance with my people in England and my children are having to deal with their own disconnection as adults, but the Family Constellation process brings us back to our roots in a tangible way, if we let it; regardless of the cause of the disconnection. My people are all close to my heart even though I don’t see them so often.

Whether disconnection has developed through cyberspace culture, trauma, emotional or relational dysfunction or emigration, the Family Constellation process is perfect for reconnecting to ourselves and our roots for more health and wellbeing.

We all do the best we can with what we have and know for the most part. If we are emotionally mature we carry the responsibility for our actions and their consequences.

Sitting in a Family Constellation circle in a safe and confidential group for the purpose of sharing and healing provides a connection and healing in itself. It brings back faith in each person’s ability to give and receive and most of all connect in a more meaningful way. It taps into an ancient tribal memory of belonging.

Beyond that, other issues of relationship, entanglement, loyalties and systemic dysfunction are addressed and resolved in a deep and respectful manner for all concerned. This allows more freedom and autonomy in all aspects of life. This includes relationships, success, wellness and peace of mind and most of all happiness.

I visualise a world where people take up the challenge of restoring their connection to family, friends, society, culture and history. Respect our environment and the sacredness of our air, water and land. See the divine in each of us regardless of the colour of our skin or the culture and religion we are born into. The process of Family Constellations and methodologies like Rapid Core Healing and Emotional Mind Integration are commonplace and used regularly to restore and maintain harmony and health.

International Family Constellation training is starting in Brisbane 2-10 January 2017.

Details of training and workshops in Sydney, Brisbane and Melbourne Australia www.familyconstellations.com.au

www.rapidcorehealing.com. Rapid Core Healing training

These ideas are presented in my book Rapid Core Healing for Growth and Emotional Healing (2016)

Contact yildiz@yildizsethi.com

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ÓYildiz Sethi

Connection

alone-public-domain-images-free-stock-photos-high-quality-resolution-downloads-unsplash0071-1000x666-copyHow much connection is healthy?
How should we connect?

Good questions.
I like to consider human beings as being delivered into the world through parents, grandparents and great grandparents. We are born into ancestral consciousness or systemic consciousness. This holds a systemic memory of love, connection and support and is the vehicle through which life force is delivered.
It also holds loyalties, entanglements and trauma.

I believe that it is everyone’s right to disentangle and release themselves from inappropriate loyalties and trauma. Remain connected in a way that allows freedom and autonomy.

Systemic Constellation work is an ideal way to do this. Tap into the energy of the family system and resolve entanglements and trauma in a respectful way that give strength to all concerned.

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Workshops

Training

Books

Rapid Core Healing

Close the year with inner healing

Relationships

Relationships

We are coming to that time in the year when many of us meet family and extended family. This is a great time to connect and share and also a very painful and volatile period for those who are excluded or exclude themselves due to past hurts or situations.
While it is true that we cant change what has happened or other peoples beliefs or behaviour it is possible to change our perspective on it and resolve it to our best satisfaction so as to allow us to feel better about it.

This can be don win Family Constellations.
This is a perfect place to resolve a relationship, a pattern or a feeling in a safe confidential and compassionate group where by we can look at ourselves or the situation from another perspective to find out what is really going on. From here we can also find our best solution and our best place with it and move on in a healthier way.

The next workshop is the last of the year so take the opportunity to experience the process, the group and learn something about how we are all connected.

For more information and to book in see

Self and Relational Healing

Nearing the end of the year, can you believe it?!
Its been a time for tidying up for me, having had my head down in writing and working for a while. I have been revamping my website, with more to go Is it ever finished?

On another note its always good to see what happens to real people through the family Constellation process.
Case Study.
John came to a Family Constellation workshop saying that he had done a lot of personal development and coaching in the past but had not been able to to change a sabotage pattern that meant that he was not seen or recognised for his work. The Constellation shows a pattern that went back 3 generations. That was several months ago and John reports that he is being recognised and is really confident of the promised forthcoming promotion.

I am offering Family Constellation workshops in Brisbane, Sydney and Melbourne for those who which to

Improve relationships. Suitable for couples, marriage, moving on from separation and divorce, blended families, parenting.
Resolving abuse issues including sexual abuse and violence.
Personal growth and spiritual growth.
Resolving blocks to success.

Issues that are suitable for Family Constellations
Workshops – www,familyconstellations.com.au Book NOW

You are one and Many

minds-expandingWe are composed of many layers.
Our mind is immensely powerful but many personal development and mental health professions have got lost in that, as we are much more than a brain and thought patterns.

Epigenetic is showing that we are highly influenced by the environment, history, relational connections and trauma of our family system. These also become part of who we are.

Further, neuro-research in brain plasticity shows that the brain is constantly rewiring itself and emotions are far more important than was previously thought.

Hence concentrating on the brain, thoughts, cognitions, schemas and behaviour is not enough, as it leaves out the unconscious mind and also the collective consciousness that we are all part of.

We are most intimately connected to our family systems and what is carried there and these patterns can and often do play out in our lives until we resolve them. Often this is just facing them to allow ourselves to come to a place of peace. Peace with where we come from leads to peace of mind and everything can flow from this place in your life.

Often, thoughts, turbulent emotions and behaviour patterns stop after a Constellation. Alternatively a little coaching or counselling can help after a constellation to help you move on, having done deep unconscious and systemic resolving in the constellation process.

There are many issues that may be resolved through Family and Business Constellations. Issues

Book in to workshops or private sessions now.

How can Family Constellations help with couples issues?

 

couples-2Many couples who seek help will say the they don’t know how to communicate with each other or are moving apart from each other.
While both of these claims are valid I would say they are the symptoms only of what is going on.

Communication is words and they come easily between a couple if the deeper dynamics of the relationship are in a good place.
Drifting apart is not feeling connected with the other. This also comes from a deeper place.

If a man has come from a family where little was ever openly discussed or who had many tragic relationships, he will often bring this into his relationship now and won’t know that there is any other way to be. He will be driven by unconscious systemic patterns.

If a woman lost her dad to death or divorce in her childhood she will unconsciously always be seeking him in her relationship and is very likely to pick a man who is not really fully present or available for her. She will be driven by unconscious systemic patterns.

Counselling will deal only with the symptoms of the communication or try to put in strategies to find some common ground. Valuable yes, but insufficient if these deeper issues are not resolved. Further counselling would have got go for months or years to get to the deeper issue issue and then would need to know how to resolve them too.A deep resolution of these deeper issues may never be found.

Family Constellations is a modality that is perfect for couples. Each of the couple can resolve their own relational issues that ar playing out in the relationship and then if necessary deal with any communication problems. Once the major road blocks are dissolved it is amazing how thing fall into place in a healthier way so that the couple can really see and respond to each other better,

Come to do  Constellations for your relationship in a workshop or private sessions. Book Now

 

Breaking Restrictive Patterns that Hold us back

It is so interesting that you often don’t notice the patterns in your life until you reflect back...... For many of us this takes place in mid or later years. We notice that with all the plans to do it differently and better than our parents or other family members that we too have been caught into invisible webs of repeat.

Perhaps:

  • Choosing partners that are unsuitable or unavailable.
  • Sabotaging our success.
  • Finding it hard to moe on after a separation.
  • Moving from abusive situations

Many people ask what is a constellation and what kind of issues can it help with.

Simple questions but I would need to write or talk for a long time to answer these questions fully so look at the you tubes or get one of my books or come to the next workshop and find out for your self..

What is Family Constellations You tube

A constellation is the inner image we have of ourselves or our situation set up with representatives.

There is no doubt that even though you are autonomous and making your way in the world that the family of origin and how you were raised and the influences from grandparents, culture and situations, have a much deeper effect than was previously thought.
So in setting up a constellation we also set up the dynamic of what you are caught up in. These re largely unconscious.

We are all caught up in dynamics even those who come from loving caring families. It is part of being human.

I believe it also the responsibility for each of us to make the most of the life we have. So any process that can honour what is valuable in you and your family system, that may also assist in giving yourself the best place possible in that and find your best solutions can only improve your sense of self, confidence, self acceptance and love.
Women and Constellations You tube 

From such a strong base only improvement can emerge in terms of all areas of your life. Personal peace, self acceptance, relationships, wellbeing, success in your life purpose and work. Hence Family Constellations and Business Constellations are are very close even though they may come with a different intention.

Family Constellations can clear self sabotage patterns to love, success and wellness.

Men and Constellations You Tube

See the upcoming workshops in Melbourne, Sydney and Brisbane to book your place as a representative or to do your own constellation.

For the next 2 days you may book two representative places for the price one if you phone me to book and give the two names.

Suitable issues for Constellations

Family ConstellationTraining

Family Constellation training is a valuable training that equips you to hold family constellation groups and also do one on one private sessions.

This is a valuable, professional, high quality training with a trainer who is a highly experienced and an educator. This is also the deepest personal development in having the opportunity to resolve your own family dynamics in freeing your self in your own dynamics. This can only have positive impact on your professional services and as a Family Constellation facilitator.

Training

In Brisbane in a 9 day intensive in January 2017

Find out More 

Take advantage of the Early Bird prices Now.

For calendar and Booking 
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Family Constellations is brief, solution focused, experiential, powerful and effective. Ideal for those who’re ready for change. As a counsellor and psychotherapist there is no other modality that can reach the depth of insight and resolution as this modality so quickly, deeply and sensitively. This is why it is my preferred way to work.  Interestingly you don’t have to bring the people of your issue with you.More information

There is no time like the beginning of the year to resolve a relationship issue, move on from a separation, resolve block to success

You may reach her on yildiz@yildizsethi.com or www.yildizsethi.com  www.familyconstellations.com.au 07 31616171

_________________________________________________

Yildiz Sethi. More Details

Phone us on +617 31616171
For more details about the trainer see http://familyconstellations.com.au/wp-admin/post.php?post=614&action=edit

Why Family Constellations?

Why Family Constellations?

Many people ask what is a constellation and what kind of issues can it help with.

Simple questions but I would need to write or talk for a long time to answer these questions fully.

What is Family Constellations You tube

A constellation is the inner image we have of ourselves or our situation set up with representatives.

There is no doubt that even though you are autonomous and making your way in the world that the family of origin and how you were raised and the influences from grandparents, culture and situations, have a much deeper effect than was previously thought.
So in setting up a constellation we also set up the dynamic of what you are caught up in. These re largely unconscious.

We are all caught up in dynamics even those who come from loving caring families. It is part of being human.

I believe it also the responsibility for each of us to make the most of the life we have. So any process that can honour what is valuable in you and your family system, that may also assist in giving yourself the best place possible in that and find your best solutions can only improve your sense of self, confidence, self acceptance and love.
Women and Constellations You tube 


From such a strong base only improvement can emerge in terms of all areas of your life. Personal peace, self acceptance, relationships, wellbeing, success in your life purpose and work. Hence Family Constellations and Business Constellations are are very close even though they may come with a different intention.

Family Constellations can clear self sabotage patterns to love, success and wellness.

Men and Constellations You Tube

See the upcoming workshops in Melbourne, Sydney and Brisbane to book your place as a representative or to do your own constellation.

For the next 2 days you may book two representative places for the price one if you phone me to book and give the two names.

Suitable issues for Constellations

Family ConstellationTraining

Family Constellation training is a valuable training that equips you to hold family constellation groups and also do one on one private sessions.
This is a valuable, professional, high quality training with a trainer who is a highly experienced and an educator. This is also the deepest personal development in having the opportunity to resolve your own family dynamics in freeing your self in your own dynamics. This can only have positive impact on your professional services and as a Family Constellation facilitator.

Training is held in Brisbane in August in 3 modus over 3 months
In Sydney in a 9 day Intensive in September
In Brisbane in a 9 day intensive in January 2017

Find out More 

Take advantage of the Super Early Bird prices Now.

For calendar and Booking 

__________________________________________________

Family Constellations is brief, solution focused, experiential, powerful and effective. Ideal for those who’re ready for change. As a counsellor and psychotherapist there is no other modality that can reach the depth of insight and resolution as this modality so quickly, deeply and sensitively. This is why it is my preferred way to work.  Interestingly you don’t have to bring the people of your issue with you.More information

There is no time like the beginning of the year to resolve a relationship issue, move on from a separation, resolve block to success

You may reach her on yildiz@yildizsethi.com or www.yildizsethi.com  www.familyconstellations.com.au 07 31616171

_________________________________________________

Yildiz Sethi. More Details

Phone us on +617 31616171
For more details about the trainer see http://familyconstellations.com.au/wp-admin/post.php?post=614&action=edit

Business Constellations

See my You tube on:
Why Business Constellations?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HrFS3gV5f24

                                                
What is a business Constellations?

How committed are you to success and Fulfilment?
Perhaps you have already read many books and done many professional and personal development coursesOt perhaps you are involved in coaching. All of it is helpful.
But what if the blocks, limitations nd patterns are still present?

Maybe its not all about structure, determination and willpower. Perhaps something deeper is going on.

What if what is holding you back is something beyond view? Subconscious or systemic.

  • Do you want to be your own boss?
  • Be more abundant?
  • Change career direction?
  • Find your purpose?
  • Resolve a block to the glass ceiling?
  • Find out what is really going on in your workplace?
  • Improve you confidence

All change has to start internally. Business Constellations is an ideal way to fast track your professional and personal development.

How long are you prepared to wait for change to take place? If you have waited long enough already book in NOW

Book in to Business Constellations NOW in Brisbane Melbourne and Sydney.

https://youtu.be/HrFS3gV5f24
__________________________________________________

Family Constellations is brief, solution focused, experiential, powerful and effective. Ideal for those who’re ready for change. As a counsellor and psychotherapist there is no other modality that can reach the depth of insight and resolution as this modality so quickly, deeply and sensitively. This is why it is my preferred way to work.  Interestingly you don’t have to bring the people of your issue with you.More information

There is no time like the beginning of the year to resolve a relationship issue, move on from a separation, resolve block to success

You may reach her on yildiz@yildizsethi.com or www.yildizsethi.com  www.familyconstellations.com.au 07 31616171

_________________________________________________

Yildiz Sethi. More Details

Phone us on +617 31616171
For more details about the trainer see http://familyconstellations.com.au/wp-admin/post.php?post=614&action=edit