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Power in Speaking Out on Sexual Misconduct. Yildiz Sethi


There is no doubt its time for women to speak out on sexual misconduct not only in the workplace but in daily life. Speaking out is a powerful and appropriate response that requires courage and clarity in giving back the guilt and shame to the perpetrators involved and a society that condones silence.

 

I know there are many men out there who cringe at how women are treated by their male colleagues who may also feel the need to speak up. We welcome your support at this time.

 

Speaking out is a response to the symptoms of patriarchy involving a deeply felt entitlement that still thrives in modern society forty years after women of the seventies burned their bras as a symbol of emancipation. There are still few women in positions of power and women continue to be judged in a way that does not take place with men, on their gender qualities and appearance.

 

The main problem as I see it is that women are not given a place to be who and how they are, that is of equal value. Present day women continue to be conditioned into playing roles of subservience. This includes navigating a web of unspoken rules where women are seduced into attempt to sooth their feminine insecurities around not being accepted or good enough by stroking the egos of men.

 

It’s a fact that its still not cool for women to show intelligence or capability in fields where men operate. There are few organisations where male ego, high testosterone levels and loyalty to the boys club may be put aside in favour of sound judgment based on merit and justice in providing a level playing field for both men and women.

 

Speaking out is a first step. It is action to let men know that what is taking place is not OK and changes need to be made.

 

But what of the women? Being heard has value but what do they do with their feelings, thoughts and trauma? Many may be advised to go to counselling, self-help groups or forums for sharing and support.

 

I have been working with victims of sexual abuse for many years. These consist of mainly women and some men, many of whom have received extensive counselling or long term involvement with self-help groups who have remained victimised and traumatised by what happened and consider themselves survivors of their abuse, often years later. They have not moved on.

 

Through my work I know that the incidence of sexual abuse is far larger than is reported. Many of my clients have not and prefer not to disclose or report sexual misconduct due to the shame and guilt they feel at being its victim and the fear of not being believed or receiving further ridicule. They don’t trust a justice system that is run primarily by men over seeing mainly male perpetrators.

 

I have developed a way of enabling recovery from sexual misconduct and abuse in all its shades that is brief, non-traumatising, sensitive, respectful and effective in only a few sessions. In this approach speaking out is a first step, releasing pent up emotions comes next and then offloading guilt and shame and reaffirming clear boundaries and taking back autonomy and dignity within is the average session sequence. The process is designed to avoid retraumatisation. This is a process where people come out of victimhood, recover their dignity and no longer hold shame or guilt and move forward in their lives in a more purposeful way in only a few sessions for most people. This is EMI Emotional Mind Integration and Family Constellations. This is presented in the book Rapid Core Healing (2016)

 

The power games we see in organisations are also present in the dynamics between couples and in families and play a large part in providing role models for children to aspire to. What children experience at home is often reaffirmed in education, particularly in same sex schooling and the media and is what they take out into the world. In this men need to step up and take responsibility for themselves in their role as fathers and husbands and women need to step up in solidarity with each other in insisting on equality and dignity across all fields of life: Personal and professional. Yin with Yang. Men and women complimenting each other and glorious in their own way. There is no need to put the other down due to insecurities and fear. Such families can provide real change for the next generation.

 

I believe we are at a crossroads where we can take stock of where were at and make the changes not only to the law, the court system, family or society, but also in our hearts and minds as human beings, fathers and mothers.
We need to upholding the right for women to take their place fully in society and this includes dismantling glass ceilings and the entitlement of mens’ networks to shut women out and stop them from developing their potential and allow them to fulfil their role as feminine beings. I visualise a time where women have the right to be who they ar with intelligence and pride and to share their sensuality only with those they choose. This is a human right.

 

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Yildiz is passionate about finding and creating what works to assist people in recovery and growth from trauma. She knows as a person in private practice she is limited in how many people she can treat and so she is providing training so that her methodologies are accessible to a greater proportion of the population for healing and the speedy recovery of a wide range of issues including trauma and sexual abuse.

 

Yildiz is holding a training in EMI on 27-29 Nov 2017

EMI Training

 

And a training in Family Constellations on 3-11 January 2018

Family Constellations Training

Yildiz is the founder of two psychotherapies, a psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, Family Constellations facilitator and educator/trainer and author of three books. Her latest book Rapid Core Healing Pathways to growth and emotional healing (2016). Yildiz lives and runs a private practice in Brisbane, Australia, travelling nationally and globally to train clinicians and run workshops for the general public.

 

Yildiz is available for professional development in mental health, trauma and training organisations.

 

Organisations involved in training or growth interested in training courses of Family Constellations, Rapid Core healing or Emotional Mind Integration courses or applications may contact her on yildiz@yildizsethi.com 0412 172 30

These ideas are presented in Rapid Core Healing for Growth and Emotional Healing (2016) Yildiz Sethi available from Amazon or www.rapidcorehealingbook.com.au

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Align yourself for success with a Business Constellation with Yildiz Sethi

In order to be successful in a business or career many elements need to be in place. These may include vision, goals, business plans, resources and connections along with specific knowledge, skills and marketing to attract sales and profit. While these are valid considerations in organisations, the importance of recognising the value of the culture of the business or human system and the inner worlds of those in the system, is often left out of the equation.

 

The problem as I see it is a business may have a history and culture that is pivotal to its Being as an entity, while individuals within it have their own inner world in operation that has an effect. The human system from the CEO to the Board and employees make up a complex mix of confluences and conflicts that must have an effect on how the business operates. Both of these aspects need to be considered.

 

The inner world of individuals consists of thoughts, emotions and desires infused with childhood experiences, family history, genetic code and culture that have the affect of creating a unique essence of its own.

 

The main problem is in business we forget that energy drives everything. Energy is the driving force within the universe, galaxies and planets and is converted to the solid stuff of matter : Non-living and living. Energy is in a state of constant transformation. This is central to our bodily form and human systems alike and yet we mostly do not consider energy in organisations, business or career at all.

 

Businesses are human systems, through which we produce products, services and financial systems, where we may pursue careers driven by aspiration, will and creativity. The purpose of which is for personal and organisational success, but ultimately for more fulfilment and happiness.

 

As with Family Constellations our inner structures, associations, feelings and perceptions create our reality. If this is healthy we may expect all to go well. This is often discounted in the business and professional worlds alike. Likewise, the history, culture, structure, roles and the essence of a company have an effect on its success, as do internal, social and business structures.

 

If the energy of a system has an essence, then finding alignments with the people within it can assist in discovering any compatibility or symmetry that can result in a profitable business. So too discovering what is misaligned and creating blocks in the system can provide useful information to organisations, businesses or individualcareers and the process of planning, streamlining or reorganising.

 

I have been conducting Business Constellations in workshops and private sessions for the last twelve years and am frequently impressed by what comes to light that could not have been shown in any other way. A Constellation shows the core of problems and possible solutions in one process.

 

Business Constellations may be used to clear and strengthen the inner world of individuals and reorganise and align them with organisations and their goals.

 

On a personal level Business Constellations may be used to resolve feelings of unworthiness, blocks and sabotage that hold people back from success, and assist in restructuring business plans and goals to enable healthy growth.

 

For organisations, Business Constellations may be used to optimise and restructure culture, HR, management, employees and attract customers so as to form a more productive work environment.

Business Constellations are popular with those involved in personal and professional development and is a potent way or working with organisational matters in offering unique insights that reveal both strengths and blind spots and hence more clarity for decision making and quickly

 

Business constellations may take place in private sessions and workshops or seminars and training is available for those who wish to provide this service to the business world.

 

I visualise a world where Business Constellations are a popular requirement of individuals to enable them to fulfil their potential. They are used in business organisations for planning and restructuring along with marketing to ensure that their human system is in good shape to deliver profits and wellbeing to all within it. A healthy, profitable business that is of value to the wellbeing of the community.

 

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Yildiz is a Brisbane psychotherapist, family constellations facilitator and trainer. She offers Business Constellations and Family Constellations in the next Sydney workshop on 21-22 October 2017 and in private and Skype sessions. Next Business Constellation Training Brisbane 6-8 October 2017

Contact +61 412 172 300     yildiz@familyconstellations.com.au

 

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Business Constellation Training

Business Constellation Training Brisbane 6-8 October 2017

 

Business Constellations is Advanced Constellation training for:

 

  1. Resolving deep feelings of unworthiness, blocks and sabotage that hold people back from success
  2. Clearing and restructuring business plans and goals to enable healthy growth
  3. Optimising and restructuring organizations, culture, HR, management structure, employees and customers to make productive and healthy environments.

 

Why Do Business Constellation Training?

  1. Business Constellation knowledge and experience provides you with the edge in a coaching capacity to assist your customers in resolving blocks and sabotage patterns succinctly and efficiently.
  2. Business Constellations may be used with organisations for restructuring and optimising businesses from small to large. Mercedes in Europe use the constellation process in their organisation to expose what business and marketing studies and research are unable to do and quickly.
  3. As a psychotherapist or counsellor Business Constellations gives you the capacity to help professionals with their career or business grow as well as their personal growth increasing our capacity to work with professional people.
  4. Business Constellation training is deep personal development work to increase your own sense of worthiness or to optimise the health of your work practice, career or business within the training

 

The problem is that companies often look only at facts, figures, technology, marketing and seek guidance from accountants, business studies and research with little consideration of the social or cultural essence of the humanity that is at the crux of their network.

 

As with Family Constellations our inner structures, associations, feelings and perceptions create our reality. If this is healthy we may expect all to go well. This is often discounted in the business and professional worlds. Likewise, the history, culture, structure, roles and the essence of a company have an effect on the companies success rate as do internal, social and business structures.

Business Constellations can quickly show the weak links, problems or blocks in a business system and also point to possible solutions and Quickly.

 

Business Constellations fits well with those involved with both personal and professional development and is a potent way or working with organisational matters in giving unique and insightful perspectives in revealing blind spots and hence allowing clarity to come in new decisions.

 

What Advanced Business Constellation training Brisbane

 

When 6-8 October 2017 9.30-4 30 88 Walnut St Wynnum 4178 Qld

 

Who Yildiz Sethi is the facilitator and trainer of Advanced Business Constellations and the creator of Advanced Business Constellations training. She regularly uses Business Constellation in her workshops and in private sessions

 

http://familyconstellations.com.au/advanced-business-training-courses/

 

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Family Constellations in a nutshell Yildiz Sethi

Family Constellations is a powerful, phenomenological, experiential modality that provides pathways out of disturbances, burdens, patterns and trauma inherited through the family system. The founder of Family Constellations is the German psychotherapist Bert Hellinger.

 

The process facilitates a healthier reconnection to the love therein so as to nurture a sense of worthiness. Worthiness is at the core of self-esteem, the potential for happiness and success. The Family Constellation process may take place in workshops or private sessions.

 

Family Constellations locates the roots of human emotional and psychological disturbances that come from the family system that may be experienced through what is known in constellation arenas as the Knowing field. It is a complete psychotherapy modality with its own philosophy, theory and practice for the resolution of a wide range of systemic (generational related) issues and trauma.

 

Sethi recognised that human beings carry two strands of potential disturbances that can hold them back from being the person they can be. These have their roots in either the family system, or personal life choices and experiences, or both. Sethi recognised that each required a specialised approach to enable accurate and effective treatment.

 

The problem is, we attempt to solve more stubborn, destructive or uncomfortable thoughts, feelings or behaviours with logic or behavioural strategies when they often have their roots in generational patterns or the unconscious mind. This means that thinking it through, or applying strategies to a problem with its roots locked in fear or trauma cannot provide an effectively lasting solution if the chosen approaches are not equipped to deal with them at the appropriate level or manner.

 

The good news is the generational mind is not only the source of problems, but also a treasure trove of wisdom, creativity, innovation and possibilities as each of us are the result of all that has gone before us. This means we each have access to a rich pool of possible resources. When these are elicited they can allow you to find your best solutions and result in a deep understanding of yourself and others. From this place new perspectives can materialise from which to move forward with more confidence with the potential for more joy and better relationships.

 

The Ancestral Brain is discussed in this article http://familyconstellations.com.au/make-peace-with-yourself-through-family-constellations/

These ideas are confirmed by the study of epigentics that shows that we carry much more from our ancestors than we had previously assumed.

 

Epigentics is showing that trauma, disturbed emotions and patterns are inextricably linked or embedded in the DNA we receive at birth. This means that a person who comes from a particular culture will receive the essence of what has gone before them in that culture. Of course this includes love and belonging and also the shocks their family system has experienced particularly those that could not be processed at the time. These may include societal or family trauma, genocide, the effects of war and famine as well as unresolved relational and emotional pain. These feelings and shocks appear to reside largely in our blind spots. In our unconscious mind or in what I have come to think of as our generational mind or ancestral brain and come out in feelings behaviour and patterns in our life.

 

Family Constellations sits in a phenomenological framework and is brief, experiential and solution-focused that is at the forefront of psychotherapy developments for the twenty first century and suitable for a wide range of mental health and personal development issues alike. It is cost effective in providing treatment suitable for the broad population of any culture.

 

Yildiz Sethi is a psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, Family Constellation facilitator and trainer, educator and author and the founder of Rapid Core Healing and Emotional Mind Integration. Her latest book Rapid Core Healing pathways to growth and emotional healing (2016) is available on Amazon.

 

Yildiz provides training in Family Constellations, Rapid Core Healing and Emotional Mind Integration.

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Recovery after the Truth and Justice Royal Commission on Sexual abuse

Focus on Healing following the Truth and Justice Royal Commission into Sexual Abuse copyright Yildiz Sethi

 

The Truth and Justice Royal Commission into Sexual abuse is a powerful step in shining a light on what happens when we allow any organisation to become a moral and unfettered law unto itself in the name of religion, profit or so called higher powers. I applaud the unveiling of ‘in-house’ codes of behaviour where turning a ‘blind eye’ to dirty secrets is normalised into common practice.

 

The commission shows how a culture of loyalties, entitlement and corruption can fester in cloistered communities. Places where the natural functions of sexual desire are seen as dirty and inappropriate for those who follow Catholic or other devotion paths. In these movements natural sexuality is repressed with nowhere to go other than frustration, self loathing or perversity for some.

 

In these situations lie covers lie until turning back is too much of a step-down for the inflated egos of such organisations to contemplate.

 

A silent moral code was developed out of vested interests, outdated beliefs, depraved morals and religious power that remained unchecked by current societal standards. This became the rationale for putting the face of the church first and children and families last.

 

But what of the abused children, mums, dads and grandparents who have been cut adrift? Lives ruined.

 

What is being done about them?

 

There is no doubt that being heard and believed can be helpful and compensation can provide material comforts or pay for much needed services. But this is only the first step. Much more is needed not only to compensate for wrong doing or manage symptoms, but to aid recovery.

 

Such abuse shatters people in many ways.

 

It destroys faith in oneself, the system and religion. Causes the victim to suffer alone due to the shame they carry. Shame at the nature of the abuse itself and why they were singled out for it and for not being able to protect themselves, speak up or bring the perpetrators to justice. Shame is a powerful force.

 

In addition there is often the shame of secrecy in not disclosing to family due to the disbelief and turmoil it would cause. They are often highly aware of the trust and faith their families had in believing their children were receiving a safe and values-based education and ignorant of the hidden predatory nature of some within the organisation.

 

I do feel sorry for the clergy who had nothing to do with this betrayal because they too have been let down by the actions of a few who have been upheld by a corrupt system. They too are unjustly smeared by the disgrace.

 

The problem is the damage does not stop at the ones who were abused. The trauma of abuse sets up an intense range of conflicting feelings, thoughts and disturbances. Sometimes the abused person is so disturbed it spills out into abuse of others. Many victims of abuse self medicate their pain with substances such as drugs or alcohol and many become mentally ill. Their careers are frequently hard to maintain, family break up is common and many victims live a troubled life overall.

 

Sexual abuse is a crime that goes largely unreported. I know this because many of my clients come wanting help in recovery from unreported sexual abuse. Often unreported due to the feelings of shame and a lack of confidence in the justice system.

 

Such trauma can leave a destructive trail for many generations into the future: Broken parents unable to parent adequately and so the cycle continues. The consequences of abuse are vast.

 

Unfortunately there is a belief that significant recovery from sexual abuse is not possible. I have found this to be untrue, as I have facilitated countless people in putting their lives together in a meaningful ways in their recovery. Assisted them in putting the past where is needs to be, so they don’t have to consider themselves as worthless, broken or damaged goods any more. Enabled them to find their resources and create more so they can engage in life.

 

Traditionally, abused people are offered counselling. In my experience of working therapeutically over seventeen years, I have found that while there may be value in being heard this can also be retraumatizing. Traditional counselling, self help groups and management of symptoms often lead to individuals remaining victims of abuse, even many years later .

 

There is a better way.

 

As a psychotherapist I have found that going through what happened in a traumatic incident in detail unhelpful towards recovery. This is explained fully in my book Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and emotional healing (2016).

 

Incest is sexual abuse that runs through family systems. The shame and secrecy of it drives the abuse compulsions. Constellations show how such compulsions can lose their power through bringing them into light. This is the most powerful and effective way of resolving systemic sexual abuse patterns for. The Family Constellation goes deep to allow a solution to arise and order to be restored to the system so that the family members in the present can find their best place with it and move on with more freedom.
For seemingly non-systemic abuse that appears to start in the present I have developed a way of working with the trauma of sexual abuse called EMI (Emotional Mind Integration) that not only promotes survival, but also allows people to find healthier resolutions in their mind and heart. EMI is a powerful neuro-trance psychotherapy. The EMI process makes it possible to put the past behind them for the most part and move on in a productive way with more peace.

 

EMI presents a new way of viewing the mind as a range of emotional mind states. The modality locates disturbed or traumatised emotional mind states through specific neural pathways. This is an accurate, efficient and effective methodology that is highly sensitive to individual needs. The process is designed to locate the original event, find a suitable resolution through an EMI healing pathway and complete with integration within each session. This is not retraumatizing. Rather, it is relieving. In this way only a few sessions are required to enable a sexual abuse victim to move on with their life. This is a brief therapeutic approach.

 

The next Family Constellation training takes place in January 2018 Details

The next EMI Emotional Mind Integration training takes place in September 2017 Details

I have a vision of educating children into knowing that they never have to suffer being touched or used for the sexual gratification of adults under any circumstance. There are deeply integrated systems connecting education, justice and psychotherapeutic interventions with individuals, families and the wider public. Everyone knows where to go with the confidence of a fair hearing, so that such breaches and betrayals do not go unnoticed. No organisations are above the law and the societal moral codes of decency ensure children are free to be children and to grow into health open-hearted adults who have the potential to live rewarding lives.

 

 

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The next Emotional Mind Integration (EMI) training starts on 11 September 2017 Details www.emotionalmindintegration.com

The next Family Constellation training starts on 2 January 2018 Details http://familyconstellations.com.au/training_overview/

 

Yildiz welcomes enquiries from organisations involved in professional training

in mental health and recovery from trauma and sexual abuse related issues.

 

Yildiz is a Brisbane psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, family constellations facilitator and trainer, innovator of Rapid Core Healing and Emotional Mind Integration and Author. She is an educator/trainer and author of three books. She is available for sessions and training. Yildiz travells nationally and globally to train clinicians and run workshops for the general public.

Her latest book is Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and Emotional Healing. (2016)  www.rapidcorehealingbook.com.au

 

She may be contacted on yildiz@yildizsethi.com. +61 412 172 300

 

Here is who I am www.yildizsethi.com and this is how you may engage in

what I have to offer www.rapidcorehealing.com.

Book in NOW for a workshop or private sessions or contact me to discuss your needs. 0412 172 300 or EMI Training Family Constellations Training Contact

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The Difference Family Constellations makes in Couples Therapy. RCH

‘A Stitch in time saves nine’. RCH Couples therapy.  

Most people assume that when we find the right partner that love will sustain the relationship through the ups and downs of life. However we often form a marriage or relationship while young and inexperienced before we really know who we are.

We cannot foresee how we will grow and develop and how we will feel twenty or more years later. We also cannot know the consequences of our choices or the kinds of events that we will have to face. How can we?

Our culture is such that we often don’t look for help in our relationship until it has reached critical or chronic proportions even though there are clear signals along the way that things are not going well. We may not want to spend the money or time to sort it out for many reasons and turn a blind eye until it is beyond repair.

But how much does a divorce cost in money, time, chaos and hurt as the life of a couple and family disintegrate?

Couples therapy may take place through many models. Most involve couples sessions only and focus primarily on communication and expressing feelings as well as strategies for living more harmoniously together. In short a discussion of problems, needs, feelings and expectations and how the couple may improve their relationship.

In my experience of over seventeen years with couples talk therapy alone does not resolve the deeper-seated issues that couples face. Couples issues involve communication, sex, infidelity, finance, trust, previous partners, children and extended family. The problem is even though these areas may be perceived as issues, they are often symptomatic of deeper dysfunctions.

If the crux of such issues were simply communication, behaviour and misunderstandings these may be resolved through a counselling process successfully. And many are. However if deep-seated issues remain after counselling, I have found continuing talk therapy to be unhelpful. Deeper issues need to be resolved at the level they arise. The roots of these often reside in blind spots in the mind and are often unconscious or part of their family systems.

Here is an example. A couple were concerned about the lack of trust that a man had in his wife. In discussion it was disclosed that his mother had been unfaithful to his father even though their marriage had remained intact. He was very aware of his father’s pain. In looking at the history of his partner, her father had left the family for another woman. It was clear that mistrust and the pain of infidelity had been a real experience for both of their family systems. Talk or cognitive therapy is unlikely to go deep enough to resolve such deep emotional drivers so they can start to build more trust between them. A Family Constellation was able to help each of the couple resolve their own family of origin issues so they could look back at each other with new eyes and start the process of a new start to their relationship.

Another couple was struggling with the level of anger the wife had for her partner. She had experienced significant abuse by her father. In looking at her family of origin through a Family Constellation she was able to acknowledge, express and resolve the rage she felt for what had happened and then was able to look at her husband in a different way. She immediately felt a pang of guilt for blaming him for her rage as she realised it had little to do with him and their life together. The anger she had directed at him had been misplaced. If we had stayed in a traditional talk therapy or cognitive approach there may well have been some awareness raised for the couple, but this is unlikely to have changed the instinctive reactive pattern that they were locked into.

I am a psychotherapist and Family Constellations facilitator who is the founder of Rapid Core Healing (RCH) couples-therapy and Emotional Mind Integration (EMI). These are new and effective ways of working with couples that allows each of the couple to resolve their family of origin issues and also the relationship itself for deeper effective solutions.  I am the founder of EMI and RCH. These modalities have been formulated through my work with couples and families. The RCH couple approach requires only one to a few groups of four sessions for most couples rather months or years of traditional therapies making it cost and time efficient.

Once family of origin projections are no longer playing out between the couple it is possible to focus on each of their emotional mind states, connection and communication. I find that once these deeper invisible dynamics are resolved other factors fall into place relatively easily. The Family Constellation process operated on many levels simultaneously. The conscious, unconscious, family system, body senses and according to its founder Bert Hellinger the personal and family soul.

RCH couple therapy is a relatively quick process where deep-seated generational patterns along with personal ones of expectations, roles, communication and boundaries may be resolved from one to several series of the four-sessions program. This may take place in workshops or private or skype sessions,

I visualise a time where couples seek help at many stages of their relationship knowing it to be a cost effective and valuable way of keeping their relationship alive. Not only to save a relationship when it is in crisis, but also to sustain and enrich it, or alternatively to enable the best separation they can have so that they can move forward in a good way. Such a philosophy and program would provide mature and healthy role models for children to witness with the message that its Ok to ask for help at times because ‘A stitch in time saves nine’.

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Yildiz holds couples, individual and workshop sessions . You may read about her RCH Couples approach in her latest book Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and Emotional Healing  Details .

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The Next EMI Training is taking place  on 11 September 2017 Special Early Bird price in operation-Be quick.

Details of RCH Training, Family Constellations training and EMI training Book in NOW contact  yildiz@yildizsethi.com

Yildiz is a Brisbane psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, family constellations facilitator and trainer. She is the founder of Rapid Core Healing and Emotional Mind Integration and an Author.

Organisations involved in training or growth interested in EMI courses or applications may contact me on. 0412 172 300 www.rapidcorehealing.com RCH couple therapy

Yildiz is the founder of two psychotherapies, a clinical hypnotherapist, Family Constellations facilitator and educator/trainer and author of three books Details. Yildiz lives and runs a private practice in Brisbane, Australia, travelling nationally and globally to train clinicians and run workshops for the general public.

Book in NOW for a workshop or private sessions or contact me to discuss your needs. 0412 172 300 or EMI Training Family Constellations Training Contact

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The Ancestral Brain

At this time in our history most of us are conditioned into believing we are self sufficient and autonomous. This is what modern men and women believe is empowering.

What has become apparent is that this is not totally true.

The study of epigentics is showing that we carry much more from our ancestors than we had previously assumed.

Epigentics is showing that trauma, disturbed emotions and patterns are inextricably linked or embedded in the DNA we receive at birth. This means that a person who comes from a particular culture will receive the essence of what has gone before them. Of course this includes love and belonging and also the shocks their family system has experienced particularly those that could not be processed at that time. These may include societal or family trauma, genocide, the effects of war and famine as well as unresolved relational pain. These feelings and shocks appear to reside largely in our blind spots. In our unconscious mind or in what I have come to think of as our generational mind.

While it is true that you are a unique individual, you are also highly relational.

Originally we were born into tribes and formed strong bonds of loyalty to each other. This served a purpose. It served the survival of the tribe and the individuals within it. Being disconnected or excluded from the group would often result in death.

My work with individuals shows repeatedly that such tribal or relational connections are much more important that most people realise. At our core our tribal identity is still pivotal to our health and wellbeing. We are born into families with an intense deep web of loyalties and connections with others. We are deeply linked to all that has gone before us and to people we have never met.

This is how we may be born into a sense of guilt, shame, sadness, anger or sabotage patterns that make no logical sense to the biography of our individual lives. And yet they continue to play out until they are resolved.

Many of us believe that awareness is the answer. I have found that being aware is only one step and does not provide a more fulfilling solution. Awareness is a knowing that is conscious. It does not in itself have the power to resolve the underlying dynamics that operate within us. This involves unconscious, loyalties and conflicts and such elements as emotions, visions and messages that are part of our family system. In many cases attempting to think through such deeply felt issues does not resolve them, as they often require experiential processing. This takes place at deeper levels of the psyche and includes the body, heart and also generational consciousness in order to be resolved and released.

I often have clients who have done much personal development who are frustrated that they have not been able to free themselves from the patterns that bind them from being able to develop and enjoy their life with more freedom. Deeply help patterns appear to be stubborn to resolution by conventional counselling or coaching.

I have been working with Family Constellations since 2005 in holding monthly workshops and private sessions.

Prior to that I was a counsellor psychotherapist and unaware of the effects of the family system on myself and those close to me. I had no idea of the patterns that were unconsciously running in me, and the effects they were having on my wellbeing and relationships. The discovery through Family Constellations was groundbreaking in that it gave me an avenue to come to peace with myself on many levels. From here I was able to more consciously navigate my life. This became a significant crossroad in my life resulting in a radical change in the way I worked with clients. I embraced Family Constellations as a more authentic way of helping others make deep and effective changes in themselves and their lives.

I found that change had to start with me first. I had to go through my own processing within my system to allow space for an arrival to a better place. Only then could this flow out to those around me. Previously my unconscious patterns even with good intentions, were running the show. I was not fully capable of providing a way forward for others and their family systems when I was coming from a place of entanglement and confusion myself.

I was not in the right place to hold a space for the healthy unfolding and resolution in others until I had experienced my own.

It is exciting to be working with Family Constellations at a time when neural science and epigentics are becoming mainstream and educating the public in how genetic memory travels through generations and how the brain is capable of rewiring itself. Rewiring new neural pathways for better feeling, mindset, health and wellbeing.

I look forward to the time when doctors, alternative and traditional health workers refer patients to Family Constellations practitioners as part of a wholistic health practice in knowing that healthily connected individuals are more likely to respond favourably to healing methodologies when they are at peace with themselves and their bloodlines.

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Yildiz holds Family Constellation workshops in Brisbane, Melbourne and Sydney and is available for private sessions and training. www.familyconstellations.com.au.

She is the director of family Constellations P/L

Yildiz is an Australian psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, family constellations facilitator and trainer. She is the innovator of Rapid Core Healing and Emotional Mind Integration and Author. Her latest book is Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and Emotional Healing. www.rapidcorehealingbook.com

Organisations involved in training or growth interested in training courses of Family Constellations, Rapid Core healing or Emotional Mind Integration courses or applications may contact her on +61412 172 300 yildiz@yildizsethi.com or see www.rapidcorehealing.com

Yildiz is available for professional development in mental health, trauma and training organisations.

Here is who I am www.yildizsethi.com and this is how you may engage in what I have to offer www.rapidcorehealing.com

Book in NOW for a workshop or private sessions or contact me to discuss your needs. 0412 172 300 or EMI Training Family Constellations Training Contact

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Family Constellations Training Evolution – copyright Yildiz Sethi

Family Constellations is a unique way of resolving issues of relationships, prosperity, worthiness and wellness. This occurs on many levels of mind, body and soul in a brief, experiential and solution-focused process in groups or private sessions.

There is no doubt the art and practice of the Family Constellation process looks easy, particularly with a highly skilled practitioner. This is why it was thought (by the founder Bert Hellinger) in the 1990’s that it could be ‘taught’ through osmosis by simply turning up to workshops. Since then he has revised this and runs a Constellation training institute

The former trend produced many people who claimed to be Family Constellation practitioners.

The problem with this was that a small amount of knowledge of such a deep psychotherapeutic process can be dangerous in unskilled hands. It is relatively easy to open up a constellation field, but requires great skill and presence to facilitate a pathway to a healing impulse.

Since around 2004 there was a shift in this trend when wise practitioners began to offer structured, experiential training as a duty of care to the public in providing safe and competent Family Constellations practitioners. The time of claiming training through public workshops was over.

Since then more structured Family Constellations training has become increasingly standard practice.

I know that competent facilitators have Family Constellations theory and practice etched very deeply into their being. It is from this place they hold a space for a constellation to open open-up and evolve. This level of proficiency requires good training, experience and professional and personal development.

I was extremely grateful and fortunate to have received high quality initial Family Constellations training with Svagito Leibermeister. This provided a nourishing and structured base of personal and professional development from which to grow. Since then I have done many valuable trainings all over the world including the Hellinger institute.

From this I know that the key to good quality Family Constellation training is the knowledge that personal development is just as important as professional development. This means that training is not simply academic but also experiential, involving the heart.

This is important, as resolving personal issues and being comfortable with our own family of origin is a prerequisite to helping others with theirs as a facilitator. This enables more authenticity and deeper, more sensitive facilitation.

As a Family Constellation facilitator, trainer and supervisor I offer comprehensive and structured training.

I am aware that my reputation as a Family Constellation trainer depends on the proficiency of my trainees with their clients. The value of training is measured in the quality and depth of the content and its delivery as well as the experience of the Constellations process and the maturity, experience and proficiency of the trainer.

I envision a time when the training of the helping professions medical, mental health and personal development include emotional intelligence and inner growth alongside academic ability in forming well-balanced practitioners for the benefit of all.

I visualise a time when the philosophy of Family Constellations is well known

and an integral part of the way we think, view and interact with each other making the world a better place.

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Yildiz is the director of Family Constellations P/L. She is a family constellations facilitator and trainer and the innovator of Rapid Core Healing and Emotional Mind Integration and an Author.

Her next Family Constellation training starts 3 January 2017.

Details http://www.familyconstellations.com.au

Her latest book is Rapid Core Healing Pathways to Growth and Emotional Healing. (2016) www.rapidcorehealing.com To see her books www.yildizsethi.com

Yildiz is available for professional development in mental health, trauma and training organisations

Organisations involved in training or growth interested in training courses of Family Constellations, Rapid Core healing or Emotional Mind Integration courses or applications may contact her on yildiz@yildizsethi.com +61412172300.

Here is who I am www.yildizsethi.com and this is how you may engage in what I have to offer www.rapidcorehealing.com.

Book in NOW for a workshop or private sessions or contact me to discuss your needs. 0412 172 300 or EMI Training Family Constellations Training Contact

 +61 412 172 300

Relationships matter for Healthy Self Esteem

 

Relationships matter because we are social beings. We are born into families, culture and society and we thrive on human connection..

And yet we are individuals. We live a combination of both the personal and social aspects of ourselves simultaneously.

Our entry into the world is our first experience of others and provides an initial impression of who we are through their eyes. Through this we form an image or feeling of who we are and this forms a deep psychological imprint from which self worth arises.

Children are egocentric in nature, in the way they think the world revolves around them. This means they easily assume the way people respond, behave or treat them is because of them. They assume they are the sole cause of responses in others.

If our parents are delighted to have us in their lives, we interpret this as being loved. We feel valued.

If our parents are going through difficult times or are distant, cool, sad or angry we take this on board too. We interpret this as them not being happy with us and we don’t feel valued. This may lead to seeking approval throughout life of partners, friends and colleagues.

The problem is if these early bonds are not formed well we carry them into adulthood.  We take this evaluation of ourselves into the world or feel responsible for the feelings of others. Feel guilty, sad or angry for no apparent reason. In my experience this is the basis of most self-esteem issues.

Self esteem is the core foundation for worthiness. Once we know this it is easy to see how our sense of worthiness affects our choices in relationships, career, success and wellbeing.

This is important for children and parents alike. As parents most of us love our children deeply and are unaware of what we carry in terms of emotional burdens and its affect on them, even with the best of intentions.

Feelings such as sadness are easily passed through generations via relational bonds. It’s easy to see how a sad mother rears a sad child and down the track a sad grandchild emerges.

This is a family system problem and yet most counsellors and psychotherapists are trained in personal therapies only that perceive clients as isolated beings on the whole. Most approaches are not equipped to look at the relational aspects of the human condition unless they are relationship or family therapies. Because of this many therapists feel the need to do further training in relationships or family therapies to spread their portfolio of offerings to clients.. Unfortunately each style of therapy is separate and often cones from a different philosophy and uses different terminologies which can be confusing for the client.

Hence we have a psychotherapy culture that is striated, resulting in therapists either doing endless training in different modalities to manage a range of client issues or sending their clients to specialists in specific areas..

While psychotherapy outcomes may indeed include encouraging personal responsibility and autonomy for their clients, in discovering who they are and how they perceive the world, the affects of family of origin bonding are often not addressed and remain unresolved.

If how we feel about ourselves is due to our early bonding or family patterns, this is not a purely personal problem and is likely to be unresolved if treated with individual psychotherapy when the family system is the fundamental issue.

Seeing many psychotherapy clients over 17 years I have noticed that individual approaches are unhelpful for deeper issues and particularly for those that have their roots in the family system.

My discovery of Family Constellations was a revelation in showing me another way to assist people in finding a better place with their family of origin and hence a better place within which results in higher self-esteem. More importantly the Family Constellation process is experiential and brief rather than lasting for months or years.

I have trained in many psychotherapy approaches including hypnotherapy and NLP and find value in each of them. However for those people who have spent their lives receiving psychotherapy or personal development who have not found a solution to their issue of (for example) poor self esteem, dealing with it in the context of the family system with the modality Family Constellations is often a powerful solution.

I look forward to a time where Family Constellations is as popular here as in Germany, Spain and South America where groups and private sessions take place in many suburbs and is embraced by the community; parents, children and grandparents alike as a practical solution to life issues.

I see a world where a more unified approach to counselling and psychotherapy is common place so as to work with both the personal and the family system issues that we carry in a unified and wholistic way.

I am excited to have developed the modality Rapid Core Healing which is presented in my book to be launched on 26 May in Brisbane Australia. The modality is presented with case studies and transcripts showing how it may be used by ‘people who help people’ in a seamless wholistic way for the benefit of all.

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Yildiz is the founder of two psychotherapies, a psychotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist, Family Constellations facilitator and educator/trainer and author of three books. Her latest book Rapid Core Healing Pathways to growth and emotional healing (2016). Yildiz lives and runs a private practice in Brisbane, Australia, travelling nationally and globally to train clinicians and run workshops for the general public.

Organisations involved in training or growth interested in training courses of Family Constellations, Rapid Core healing or Emotional Mind Integration courses or applications may contact me on yildiz@yildizsethi.com

These ideas are presented in her book Rapid Core Healing for Growth and Emotional Healing (2016)

Contact yildiz@yildizsethi.com   +61412 172 300

Here is who I am www.yildizsethi.com and this is how you may engage in what I have to offer www.rapidcorehealing.com.

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